hardup Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Would like insight on what my ex is thinking? Short story- he broke up with me 4 months ago, after a 7 year relationship. He said he just 'wasn't happy'. We have a child together. We've remained pretty good friends after the break up. I help him out, he helps me out. We communicate a lot throught out the day. We also have hooked up a few times, but he put a stop to it cause it was just hurting me too much. I obviously expressed how I wanted to work on our issues and remain together, but have been shot down with such mixed answers from him. I haven't brought it up for weeks now. He seems to be getting closer to me, wanting to be around even more. Today he came out to dinner with my entire family. He also sent me a text the other day stating that 'some days he wished our breakup never happened.' I know this isn't how a typical breakup outcome goes, so I'm left wondering what he is thinking. I don't want to bring it up, because my pride can't be shot down anymore, I can't deal with any more heartbreak.
salmagundi Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Ok, just a guess and take it for what it is but... ...whether he means to or not he is stringing you along in my opinion. Feeding you lines like "sometimes he wishes you hadn't broken up" is just BS because, unfortunately he is also implying that "other times he's totally good with it." Its an excellent example of classic, noncommittal breadcrumbs. He wants to keep you hoping because he doesn't want to lose you irredeemably. But he hasn't stepped up and said "I miss you, I love you, I made a mistake, lets work this out." Until he does this he is just blowing smoke and it will keep you confused and hoping...and solidly on the back burner. In my opinion, FWIW... 1
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