Trisb4u Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Hi my ex girlfriend recently ended a 6 and a half year relationship with me because of lack of intimacy. I didn't see it coming and never knew there was a serious problem till the end. I never got a chance and found out she was sleeping with a mutual friend two weeks later. Was her reason for ending the relationship genuine or was she falling for this mutual friend behind my back. I admit I never seemed to be in mood for sex but found it difficult with her 13 and 16 year old children always around. I didnt live with her and am up at 6.30am so went to home at about 10.30 and her kids would still be up when i left. Was it all my fault? We had sex about a month and a half before it ended. She always seemed stressed when I would arrive at her house and didn't seem happy to see me, then later on would decide she wanted sex when I wasn't in the mood.
Author Trisb4u Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 (edited) Ps. I was always a trustworthy loyal caring boyfriend. Is there something wrong with me as I found her sexually attractive Edited November 11, 2012 by Trisb4u
21flames Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Afraid it sounds like she was already seeing him behind your back.
Author Trisb4u Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 Thanks for reply. Do you think one day she will realise her mistake as the new guy is a loser. He has no job, sells weed and has anger issues. He even hit his ex girlfriend and my ex knows all this.
Feelin Frisky Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Intimacy and sex aren't the same thing. Intimacy is "caring" about whther your partner is pleased with the attention you pay to them both in and outside of the sack. If you were "intimate" with her, you would have known that she wanted more sex. But it sounds like you made assumptions and carried on as if you had it all figured out. I don't blame you for feeling intimidated by having teenagers around but where there's a will, there's a way.
Author Trisb4u Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 That confuses me as I was always caring. I was always nice, kind and generous. I cannot read minds. Wish I could or I would of seen it coming.
Author Trisb4u Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 I always asked how she was and how her day went but she never said. Can intimacy not be brought back into a relationship?
21flames Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Is she seeing this guy now then? Is she still in touch with you and want's to sort things out?
Author Trisb4u Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 Yes she is with this guy still. It's been 5 weeks. No she never contacts me
Author Trisb4u Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 Three weeks prior to the end it was her birthday and everything seemed fine. A week before that we all went ice skating together as a family
Author Trisb4u Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 Recently there was a lot going on with her family and I thought she was just down about all that. When I arrived at hers she was in a grump with either me or her family and took i the brunt
21flames Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Yes she is with this guy still. It's been 5 weeks. No she never contacts me Your story sounds similar to a lot of people on here. If she is seeing him and never contacts, you need to go no contact on her as it sounds like she has made her choice. Read a lot of posts on her and if she does want to be with you, it is down to her to come back to you. Even if she does, would you ever trust her again? I doubt it.
Author Trisb4u Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 (edited) She did contact me once about changing her phone bill to a paper one as i used to pay it d/d for her. i am in a dilemma as i dont know for definate she was cheating but it all just happened so quick. His ex girlfriend messaged me saying it had been going on for a while but you shouldnt always believe other people. Another question i have is when i found out she was dating him just two weeks after the split i sent her some horrible messages. Should i apologise for what i said on theses messages or leave it? I have also got some important documents of hers regarding her daughter should i return them only or return them with a letter apologising for what i said or just leave it? Edited November 12, 2012 by Trisb4u
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