GirlontheLam Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I actually like when the man talks more on the date. I am super talkative/extraverted, but sometimes it is nice to be the listener. If he was only doing 30% of the talking, that would feel like not enough. And I like people that gesture more and are more expressive. One of my strengths is that I can usually get even the quiet guy talking half of the time.
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Until you learn to reconcile the conflicting needs of having the emotional upperhand (fear of vulnerability and abandonment) and how your attraction is triggered by PUA tactics where getting with a PUA subsequently devolves into a battle for who's got the emotional upperhand, it's going to be difficult to find a long-term partner since trust is a major issue. Once again, this isn't to trash you. They're purely observations. TBF, you are right in some ways. I know I have some issues, I am just trying to figure out what they are exactly. But in general I have noticed a pattern, emotional unavailability = moth to flame for me.
SJC2008 Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 OP how would being interested and expressive in her stories come accross as a "nice guy"? I totally disagree with you on this one.
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