Mr Spock Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 I read it a little more carefully. Thank you Samson, for that mental image.
Author shortymd11 Posted August 6, 2004 Author Posted August 6, 2004 I have no problem dealing with it and he gets checked out for mouth cancer anyway its part of who he is!
HoldOn Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 Originally posted by shortymd11 I have no problem dealing with it and he gets checked out for mouth cancer anyway its part of who he is! Too bad he doesn't want to be with you... I really don't think that you have thought hard enough about this, but there is nothing I can do to change your mind... Just imagine yourself sitting in this guys house when you are 30 and he is 45. He'll be old and wrinkly and spitting tobaccy into various household objects. And maybe he'll start drinking again and you will be miserable! Oh wait, and you'll both be suffering from depression so you'll never leave the house.... What a picture you are painting for us.
Author shortymd11 Posted August 6, 2004 Author Posted August 6, 2004 Both his parents are 53 and could pass for 45 so im not worried about what he'll look like and he doesnt spit all over he spits in pop cans or beer bottles and we go out on the boat and out to dinner all the time!
RowanRavyn Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 When I was fifteen I started dating a guy who was 21. We met a church and it was readily accepted. He had a public face and a private face. I was too young and inexperienced to understand what was going on, and honestly I was too immature for the things that happened, and was not really able to defend myself. He was well respected and I was a kid, and in the end it would have been his word over mine. Not all relationships are the same, but the fact that he is having second thoughts sets off all kinds of red flags. Be careful hun. Guard your heart, and realize that you really do have your whole life ahead of you.
Author shortymd11 Posted August 6, 2004 Author Posted August 6, 2004 well i was at his house last night and he told me that i was the best hes found except for my age and he would do anything to solve our dilemma but cant think of anything. i told him i could be a secret again but he doesnt think i'll be happy with that.
HoldOn Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 So you want to date this guy who is.... 15 years older chews tobacco is a recovering alcoholic is clinically depressed .....and..... doesn't want to date you What would you tell a friend if she were asking you...
Author shortymd11 Posted August 6, 2004 Author Posted August 6, 2004 hes not a recovering alchohalic lol he IS an alchoholic but that doesnt bother either of us he feels wrong in being iwth me he told me that he really really wants to be with me and i make him happy but he feels like ima pup and he wouldnt be lettin me grow.
RowanRavyn Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 Honey. MOVE ON. You are buying way too much trouble for someone your age. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up.
FolderWife Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 I am fast learning that the older guys (around 10 years older) treat their girls better than men their own age would. You do what feels right.
Author shortymd11 Posted August 7, 2004 Author Posted August 7, 2004 thank you monday it's true i have never been treated better by anyone
swtbonita Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 i don't think older guys are nicer.. I just think older guys know how to lie better and are more experienced in treating women the way the want to be treated so that the men can get what they want.. you should wonder why he is still single at 33..
HoldOn Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 Originally posted by Monday I am fast learning that the older guys (around 10 years older) treat their girls better than men their own age would. Yeah, I heard that alcoholics treat their girlfriends great! This guy is money! don't let him go.
Author shortymd11 Posted August 7, 2004 Author Posted August 7, 2004 its not like hes a drunk alchoholic and he treats me wonderfully you dont know him y should u be prejudice?
Mr Spock Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 Originally posted by HoldOn Yeah, I heard that alcoholics treat their girlfriends great! This guy is money! don't let him go. Ok Holdon, you've made your point. Are you aware of how many alcoholics are out there? Someone loves each and every one of them. Shorty, you'll be done with this guy when you're ready. If he treats you well, fine. Just DON'T have kids with him. If he's still talking to you, he wants to date you. He just may be at a point in his life where HE wants to commit, and is worried you'll dump him on his ass in 4 years. Which you will. So have fun. Just don't tie yourself down.
Author shortymd11 Posted August 8, 2004 Author Posted August 8, 2004 yea he worries about me changing my mind down the road
G'sShorty Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 I am 22 and have always been with older guys. It has taken me 6 years and 3 serious relationships to find someone who fits me like a glove. I thought I had it so good in the relationships I had before and it wasn't until I was out of them and met someone better that I realized what I was really looking for. I now have a man who is ambitious, is a gentleman, has very similar goals to my own, is wonderful in bed , has a family that likes me and mine likes him (even though we are 14 yrs apart and an interracial (blk/wht) couple at that). Neither of us worry about age and have both been married and divorced before. We see eye to eye. But, honestly hon, I have always been very mature for my age, but looking back at myself at that age....whew! I am a completely different person! And it's only been 4 years. I am not saying give up but just KEEP IN MIND that you WILL change whether you like it or not and with what he's saying about being worried about the age difference...Just be ready. Your first love will throw you for a LOOP and you will do anything to hold onto it. But as my mom always told me even though it took me a while to believe it- If your relationship isn't perfect there is ALWAYS someone better out there. As long as you use protection and DON'T get pregnant, things will be okay in the long run whether things work out or not. Hear what other people say but just remember when you look at yourself in the mirror the only person you can blame is yourself. That is what I would have told my 16 yr old self if I could go back in time...Hope that helps.
reasontosigh Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 Originally posted by Samson ......compared to all the bi sexual, bi racial, bi lingual, transvestite, pig loving, old lady fetish people covering themselves in green jello before taking whiplashes across the gentinals of the spread turkey legs after I, Samson haf told them more than twice that if Maltilda has one more gushing fit of extascy in the presence of dick-lay and cheese wiz then I, Samson will have no choice but to continue the forward thrust into my velvet lined camera case. You were just waiting for me to find this, weren't you, Sampson!?
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