PhillyDude Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Only seeing someone when you are horny and then hooking up for dinner and play afterwards? Meaning that is FWB a dress up term for "F**k buddy?
Pyro Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Only seeing someone when you are horny and then hooking up for dinner and play afterwards? Meaning that is FWB a dress up term for "F**k buddy? FWB and f*ck buddy are one in the same. You typically don't hook up for dinner or to hang with them. They are for sex and sex only.
irc333 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 FWB and f*ck buddy are one in the same. You typically don't hook up for dinner or to hang with them. They are for sex and sex only. I was wondering, in a FWB situation, for disease purposes, would there be some kind of obligation to not mess around with others?
Author PhillyDude Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 FWB and f*ck buddy are one in the same. You typically don't hook up for dinner or to hang with them. They are for sex and sex only. That's what I always thought. Because what would be the point of it if my FWB is calling me to tell me about her bad day. I thought that was only a relationship sort of thing
Pyro Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I was wondering, in a FWB situation, for disease purposes, would there be some kind of obligation to not mess around with others? I would hope that using protection if you are sleeping with more than one person goes without saying.
Author PhillyDude Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 I was wondering, in a FWB situation, for disease purposes, would there be some kind of obligation to not mess around with others? Why should it be? Yall are not committed
Pyro Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 That's what I always thought. Because what would be the point of it if my FWB is calling me to tell me about her bad day. I thought that was only a relationship sort of thing In a lot of cases one of the two people starts developing feelings for the other which explains a scenario like that. You are not obligated to hear about her bad day if you are FWB.
Pyro Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Why should it be? Yall are not committed It's more for your own safety and theirs.
Author PhillyDude Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 In a lot of cases one of the two people starts developing feelings for the other which explains a scenario like that. You are not obligated to hear about her bad day if you are FWB. My female friend thinks that was a FWB is, that you still talk about your bad day along with having sex and I told her than it should just be called a relationship. I have no interest in hearing a FWB complain about her supervisor at work
Pyro Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 My female friend thinks that was a FWB is, that you still talk about your bad day along with having sex and I told her than it should just be called a relationship. I have no interest in hearing a FWB complain about her supervisor at work Your friend is incorrect and you are correct. That is what the 'benefits' are (the freedom to date whomever you want and go where ever you want)
iris219 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I thought a FWB was a friend who you started having sex with. Friends talk to each other about a bad day at work. Maybe a f* buddy is different and involves nothing other than sex. 2
Author PhillyDude Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 I thought a FWB was a friend who you started having sex with. Friends talk to each other about a bad day at work. Maybe a f* buddy is different and involves nothing other than sex. I mean maybe ONE TIME but if you are in a FWB you really don't want to get in the habit of talking about your bad day since that would start to feel like a relationship.
jcrew11 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I think in its simplest definition, its a sexual relationship with no expectations of marriage or long-term relationship. There is no label, no monogamy, no daily phone calls, or dinner dates, and other relationship stuff, definitely no "I love you's". But it also depends on the guy and girl involved with how they decide to interact outside of the sex. For guys, they might just want the freedom to sleep with other people, not calling every day, not having time for relationship stuff and dinner dates. Obviously the frequency of the sex may alter the relationship, especially if you are sleeping together every night, and not seeing anyone else. The woman may want more eventually, but may be content to just have sex, given the man's financial situation, long-distance, or other things that make a more serious and regular relationship impossible. Its really up to the woman to decide if she expects the man to "act like a monogamous boyfriend" or allow him to get away with seeing other women, and breaking up with him if he doesn't meet her expectations. The girl has more power when it comes to giving up herself for sex, and can deny the man if he's not willing to be exclusive. 1
SmileFace Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Actually I don't think FWB and FB are the same thing. What you mentioned is a FWB. I personally will never do a FWB - because feelings will get hurt. I tried it but it isn't me. I really don't want to be friends with someone while we are just having sex. Because to me it is just sex - yes this has come across badly to guys but IDC, I let them know this. I rather we just met up for sex and depart. However that is just me just protecting myself. Anything else will lead to me catching feelings. I have actually insulted a guy since I rather just have FB where he wanted a FWB. I am sorry if I am having sex outside of a relationship - it means I am too busy for a relationship so I will not invest additional time with a guy if it isn't leading to a relationship. I have friends and family to hang out with - I am not going to hang out with someone and play relationship if that isn't what I am looking for or not given the option. I had a FB with a guy who I am now good friends with - he gives me business advice and has helped me over the years and we have meet for dinner. We always got along but I kept everything short during. Our friendship, hanging out and talking wasn't during the duration of our FB. He tried to push for hang outs and get together but I declined since I understood what I wanted from and that was only sex. I can't do casual sex - as in sex with strangers so I FBs work for me. The ones I have been in I was actually pretty fond of the guys but I wasn't looking for much more and was exclusive sexual with the guy I mentioned since it was weekly thing. I discuss STD, pregnancy as in any other relationship - since sex is on the table. I have had a casual fling with someone who was my friend before us sleeping together and that lead to me falling hard for him hard. Any guy I plan to have a FB with - I meet them with that intention. The joys of online. I will never again sleep with someone I am friends with unless it is a relationship. So no FWB for me.
DC4 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I thought a FWB was a friend who you started having sex with. Friends talk to each other about a bad day at work. Maybe a f* buddy is different and involves nothing other than sex. Yeah, this is my understanding, too. I have a FWB. We talk and text most days. We talk about our good days/bad days/kids. He made me dinner the other day and we watched a movie-then later on there was sex. We talk about everything except other dates/sexual partners but it's understood we both have other things going on. That'll go on until one or both of us gets bored or finds a better fit for dating.
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 (edited) I now have a what I would describe as fling or FWB. This has no long term potential. We talk outside of sex and go out for movies or dinner. We were never platonic friends. Neither is seeing someone else but we use protection and I am not fussed if he dates others nor if I do the same. I doubt I will let this last past few months. Since we were never friends, casual dating or a short term relationship is perhaps a better term. Something else to consider: we both agreed on no lies and we both schedule a time to see each other in advance by at least a few days. No last minute hook ups or booty calls. Me and my time need to be respected. Edited November 11, 2012 by Eternal Sunshine
2.50 a gallon Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Over my life time I have had lots of FWB's relationships. It was not all about sex, We were friends first, so yes we talked about her bad days with her supervisor, that is what friends do. Sometimes they would call me up and say work or life was getting them down and they wanted to get laid And yes we did go on dates, sometimes to dinner, I had one that stuck around for six years, we had a standing date every other Wednesday for Mexican food, with her buying. At times she was also my dance partner Sometimes it was to a movie, or a party, or sometimes, lets get together catch up on things and screw the night away
Author PhillyDude Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 Over my life time I have had lots of FWB's relationships. It was not all about sex, We were friends first, so yes we talked about her bad days with her supervisor, that is what friends do. Sometimes they would call me up and say work or life was getting them down and they wanted to get laid And yes we did go on dates, sometimes to dinner, I had one that stuck around for six years, we had a standing date every other Wednesday for Mexican food, with her buying. At times she was also my dance partner Sometimes it was to a movie, or a party, or sometimes, lets get together catch up on things and screw the night away That sounds like a relationship not a friends with benefits
serial muse Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 (edited) I've never had a f*ck buddy or a FWB situation, but I guess I'm wondering, if you go out to dinner but you don't talk about your lives, what do you talk about? It's one thing if you just call each other up at 11 pm to come over and have sex and then right afterward you boot the person out the door. But if you're going through the motions and bothering to have dinner beforehand, I don't see the point of splitting hairs and saying "let's have dinner too but don't talk to me about your supervisor while we eat or the deal is off". Dinner = a friendly thing to do, not just sex. And yeah, the term FWB to me implies that you're actually friends of a sort, and that you don't just have sex: you're allowed to chitchat without somebody saying "don't talk! just hurry up and eat so we can screw!". It's just that there's no commitment. But like I said, I've never been in this situation so what do I know. Edited November 12, 2012 by serial muse
Author PhillyDude Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 I've never had a f*ck buddy or a FWB situation, but I guess I'm wondering, if you go out to dinner but you don't talk about your lives, what do you talk about? It's one thing if you just call each other up at 11 pm to come over and have sex, but if you're going through the motion of dinner beforehand, I don't see the point of splitting hairs and saying "but don't talk to me about your supervisor while we eat". Dinner = a friendly thing to do, not just sex. And yeah, the term FWB to me implies that you're actually friends of a sort. Which means you don't just have sex, you're allowed to chitchat, it's just that there's no commitment. But like I said, I've never been in this situation so what do I know. FWB is supposed to be a ESCAPE from reality and all fun and games. Not sitting around someone hearing them go on and on about what is upsetting them in their life. Back in the past when I had a girl come over and play with me that was my escape from bills, rent, and work. I wasn't going to talk to her about my job and supervisor That's what my mom or platonic friend is for
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 I've never had a f*ck buddy or a FWB situation, but I guess I'm wondering, if you go out to dinner but you don't talk about your lives, what do you talk about? It's one thing if you just call each other up at 11 pm to come over and have sex, but if you're going through the motion of dinner beforehand, I don't see the point of splitting hairs and saying "but don't talk to me about your supervisor while we eat". Dinner = a friendly thing to do, not just sex. And yeah, the term FWB to me implies that you're actually friends of a sort. Which means you don't just have sex, you're allowed to chitchat, it's just that there's no commitment. But like I said, I've never been in this situation so what do I know. In my case we talk about everything. From meaning of life to what a bad day either had. The two main differences to a relationship: 1. There is no future or commitment, we both a agree it's a short term thing. 2. Frequency of meeting and contact. Usually once a week or once every 2 weeks, with few texts and chats in between.
EasyHeart Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 "Friends with benefits" == Sex without dating "Just Friends" == Dating without sex yw
serial muse Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 FWB is supposed to be a ESCAPE from reality and all fun and games. Not sitting around someone hearing them go on and on about what is upsetting them in their life. Back in the past when I had a girl come over and play with me that was my escape from bills, rent, and work. I wasn't going to talk to her about my job and supervisor That's what my mom or platonic friend is for So don't have dinner then. It would be a major drag to get together with a dude to chill out and have sex and then find out he's got a list of stuff I'm not supposed to mention. It the opposite of relaxing to have to be on one's toes and watch one's p's and q's.
Author PhillyDude Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 So don't have dinner then. It would be a major drag to get together with a dude to chill out and have sex and then find out he's got a list of stuff I'm not supposed to mention. It the opposite of relaxing to have to be on one's toes and watch one's p's and q's. Well then that would mean I;m in a relationship if i go to dinner, talk about everything, and have sex.
2.50 a gallon Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Friends With Benefits Note the first word, yes a friendly relationship, that includes sex, but never a commitment or a plan to go exclusive. And at that time I had a black book with at least a dozen FWB's and some that would call me up for another ONS, just for fun.
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