shelley3 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I broke up with my ex. It was a bad divorce with custody a custody battle and court. We were mean to each other at the end if the relationship and it spilled over to a bitter divorce. Now everything is done and we have gone to mediation, agreed on the custody terms, child support and separation of property. We have only had harsh words for each other through the entire process. All that is left is for the judge to sign the mediation agreement. Last night he called and we talked for hours, it was random and friendly we talked like we did years ago. It was nice, we both cried and told each other all the personal struggles we had gone through this year that the other was not aware of. We talked about us and good times, the kids, how we missed each other, missed our good times, our personal relationship that had gone bad years ago, we even talked about sex, other people who we had gone out with and just everything. At the end he said I don't know if we will end up back together all I know is I missed you and we acres to talk again soon and make plans to do something. I am shocked at the way I feel today. I hated him when I woke up yesterday and today I can see myself working it out. I need some advice. We have spent over 15,000 divorcing how can these feeling pop up. I Misa him more today than I have this entire time. Anyone who has known someone in or gone through a similar situation please help me. I'm confused and conflicted.
Sasu Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I am no expert on the matter but most of answers you gonna get would be to Stay strong and don't give second chances ...But if you subconsciously want him back ..consider this 1) Can you both solve issues which caused all the stuff in first place ? 2) Does he feel same for you ? If yes ,Then stay strong and try to work it out..make sure to guard your heart all the way.. Sometimes relationship needs breakup to put things back in place..
Author shelley3 Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 I know he says he still loves me but to complicate things more I do have a boyfriend. I didn't cheat but this Guy is head over heals for me and already talks about our future together. I really do miss my ex and my family the way it was. I don't know if people can get back together after all that happened. I also feel had for the Guy I'm with but he is not my children's father and I don't know what to do. I don't know if I'm being crazy even considering this. We have three kids and 8 years of marriage. Is this just a fleeting thought or idea on both our parts? I have no clue
Sasu Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 How long you been together with the boyfriend ..
Author shelley3 Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 Just a few months. He is in his twenties and said he loved me very fast. I like him but I am nit ready to say I love u to anyone. I must admit he has made it all a little easier for me but I am afraid I am really going to hurt him. I don't want to. I am having a very rough day emotionally. My ex and him are very different he is really close and calls all the time says he loves me all the time, likes to cuddle, kind of everything I was missing with the ex. With my ex sex was always great but we had gotten routine with the other intimacy stuff. I don't want to sound like a bad person and I don't want my cake and to eat it too. I want one normal healthy relationship where both people are truly happy and want to be there. I love my ex still and I didn't know it until now because of all the anger I felt.
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