Should I go for it?

[Josie93]

I've met this guy two weeks ago and we had a pretty fun time. I had to leave early and go back to my dorm because of mid terms week. He texted me on the same day, at night, and asked me how things were and how he had a great time and such.

 

Anyways, he asked me to hang out the following Thursday and I had time, so I went along with it. He texted me every night before I go to sleep and we usually talk until he go to sleep. We talked about school and work, nothing too personal or related to being in relationships.

 

On Thursday, we hung out and he put his hand on my shoulder the whole time. I was a bit uncomfortable at first, because I am not looking for a relationship. I have been hurt before and I am not ready for a relationship yet.

 

I see him again on Saturday, but he kissed me on the lip and I wasn't really happy about it. He did apologized a lot afterwards though, and I forgive him. He did asked me out right after he did that, so I don't think he's looking for anything casual.

 

I still go out with him, not exclusive, and every time he walks me home (which is every time we went out) he will hug me really tightly and kisses me in the forehead. I think that he does want to kiss in the lips but was afraid that I will b be pissed.

 

The question is, should I go for it? I am not ready for a relationship and is afraid of getting hurt again. Does guys, who are touchy when they go out with you (like holding your hands, and stuff like that) really look for serious relationships? Guys, I need advice.

 

P.S. He is a sweet talker (always saying things like I miss you and I'll wait for you when you are ready for a relationship, etc)

[coffeebean201]

Guys are very touchy. And they need to be touched. That is part of a relationship.

 

If you don't want to be touched - then you have to tell him it is friends-only for a year or something, and then he can ask you out again.

 

Or else he's going to keep touching you, and then apologizing - which doesn't sound fun for either of you.

[River Rain]

Yeah, don't lead him on, that's unfair. From what you describe he obviously likes you to the point where he wants some kind of romance. Be honest with him.

[Sabian]

You didn't mention anything in your post about whether you like him or not. That's the ultimate decision right? If you're uncomfortable when he touches you and don't want to be kissed....isn't that your answer?

 

If you do like him and are only reserved because of your past relationships all I can say is that worrying about the same thing happening and constantly questioning yourself without ever making a decision is only going to make things worse.

 

Either way, it sounds like you need to decide soon and make it clear to him or else you could end up hurting him. Nothing is more frustrating to a guy than a girl acting like she's into you one minute, only to go cold the next.

[Josie93]

I am unsure if I like him or not. Sometimes I wish he could just hold me close, but other times I feel weird when he hugs me. I think that I love the way he cared for me, in a very sweet way that many other guys had not done so. I don't see myself as a very attractive person though, so I don't know why he settled with me, and sometimes doubt it. But whenever we are out, he lets me make the decisions of where to eat and go. He respects me 100% and promised that he won't make me do anything I don't want to. I'm just not sure if I should go for it. If I did, what if I regret it? If I don't, what if I missed a guy that will probably love me? I'm just very conscious about the fact that he is a sweet talker- because all the sweet talker in the past ended up hurting me.

[Josie93]

I feel protected when he hugs me, but I just feel that if he kissed me only after seeing me a few times, he's not serious and might be a player too.