joethere Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 hey, this is my first post here and i really need ur help. my ex of 6 years broke up with me 8 months ago, i have tried nc many times and i always broke it three weeks later. 2 months ago i found out she talks to some other guy whom she was so happy about for two weeks until she started getting back to being sad and confused. I initiated nc about a month ago until i started seeing signs that she is interested again, she showed up at my work once claiming she has something to do and then she left doing nothing. Judging from her facebook profile she is always sad and overthinking. I thought it may be time to initiate contact again and we talked for a whole day. it was cool and we didnt talk abouthe past, next day i told her we should keep it low contact and she agreed. she started posting really sad posts on facebook about missing someone. next day i started gettig jealous and asking about the guy she is with and asked her if she still loves me she said no and she doesnt want to talk about it and things went dow hill and she blocked me. I dont what to do know and i feel i got back to day 1.
beyond Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 hey, this is my first post here and i really need ur help. my ex of 6 years broke up with me 8 months ago, i have tried nc many times and i always broke it three weeks later. 2 months ago i found out she talks to some other guy whom she was so happy about for two weeks until she started getting back to being sad and confused. I initiated nc about a month ago until i started seeing signs that she is interested again, she showed up at my work once claiming she has something to do and then she left doing nothing. Judging from her facebook profile she is always sad and overthinking. I thought it may be time to initiate contact again and we talked for a whole day. it was cool and we didnt talk abouthe past, next day i told her we should keep it low contact and she agreed. she started posting really sad posts on facebook about missing someone. next day i started gettig jealous and asking about the guy she is with and asked her if she still loves me she said no and she doesnt want to talk about it and things went dow hill and she blocked me. I dont what to do know and i feel i got back to day 1. Joe, I'm really sorry but there is only one thing here for you to do and that is to get on with your life without her. She broke up with you, has told you she doesn't love you and has blocked you from contacting her. How much more do you need to tell you she wants nothing more to do with you? I know it hurts so much, but in the long run her being this brutally honest is going to be better for you than hanging around hoping for some sign that she still likes you. xx
Cb3657 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Sounds like you are her backup, if no one better is around I always have him, think on how that plays out long term. Your dating and someone " better" comes around, your married and this happens. For most people being in a long term relationship or even a marriage does not change their fundamental behaviors, the dynamic you have now is she dates around while you wait in the wings, unless you are ok with being a permanent backup I suggest You starting looking for someone better yourself.
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