buzzie2 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I was told very recently that if your boyfriend starts to pull away from you, that the best thing to do is to just pull away yourself. Then this way he will start to miss me again, and drive up his desire for me. Do you agree with this, or do you think that if he pulls away I should pursue him even more?
charlietheginger Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Every situation is different..... If he is pulling away be cool give him space Focus on staying buzy.... so you dont act " like a crazy chick" if he drifts back give him attention... If not you got your own life to deal with Would you wanna be with a guy thats only With you becuase he felt guilty and couldn't Leave becuase your feelings are hurt? If he feels pressured and stays he wont have His heart into the relationship... It like a bird.. Let the bird fly but keep a eye on the bird occasionally wave at the bird to keep attention and see If the bird flies back Do not follow the bird do not show up at the birds work Do not overly text or call the bird Show no anger only kindness to the bird If he really likes you he will be back..... But by then you might have another bird flying Around you 1
curlygirl40 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I was told very recently that if your boyfriend starts to pull away from you, that the best thing to do is to just pull away yourself. Then this way he will start to miss me again, and drive up his desire for me. Do you agree with this, or do you think that if he pulls away I should pursue him even more? If a guy backs away and needs his space, you should definitely give it to him and don't pursue him. But yet I don't necessarily think it's so that he can miss you as much as I think men take their space because they need time to think and collect their thoughts and decide what they want. If they take their space and you fill it with unnecessary chatter, or neediness or crazy behavior, then it doesn't give him the time he needs. If he's backing away and/or taking his space, he's doing it for a reason. IMO if he seems to be backing away, don't play games but yet start to mirror his behavior. If he texts, text back. If he calls, talk to him. If he asks to see you, then go. But yet don't pursue or chase if he's backing away. That's my opinion. Sometimes men need space to think. Let them do that. 1
DC4 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I never pursue someone that clearly needs space from me. If the situation were reversed, I'd be so f'cking annoyed! Give it a couple of weeks and if he drifts further away it's time for "the talk" which frankly everyone hates but you gotta do it. If it's time to cut bait and run it's better sooner than later than waste your precious time on someone who isn't very interested. 2
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