DontWorryBHappy Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I thought this would be perfect for the coping forum because that's exactly what I'm doing. About a week ago I told my best friend that I had feelings for him (in an awkward, bad-timing sort of way, consisting of me dashing away from the scene after saying it). Before that, we were very close friends. We talked every day and hung out every day too. He would initiate conversation with me all the time and definitely loved having me around. Then I dropped the feelings bomb.. I had been torturing myself over my feelings and finally decided that I wanted to just tell him. After that we talked (the next day) and he let me down easy, saying that he loves me as a friend. And then suggested that we take some "space" from each other to allow me to get over my feelings. So what am I coping about? The extreme change in the friendship. Basically, it feels like I lost my best friend. I miss him terribly, and even though he is still talking to me (which I am grateful for), it just isn't nearly to the degree that it once was. I've been having a hard time dealing with it and truly just want the friendship back. Im trying to tell myself that this change was necessary for me to move on, but it does hurt. I wonder if he misses being close friends with me as much as I do with him.. He did ask if we could go to the mall today, which was a great sign.. it would have been the first time hanging out since last week. But I had to work, so he suggested this coming week. I know its a positive thing that he asked to hang out today, but I still have anxiety about whether things will keeping improving or whether we are doomed to being friends that won't ever be as close as we once were. I hope it just needs more time. All I know is that the knowledge of him only seeing me as a friend made me sad, but the threat of losing the closeness of our friendship is much scarier.
taya Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I thought this would be perfect for the coping forum because that's exactly what I'm doing. About a week ago I told my best friend that I had feelings for him (in an awkward, bad-timing sort of way, consisting of me dashing away from the scene after saying it). Before that, we were very close friends. We talked every day and hung out every day too. He would initiate conversation with me all the time and definitely loved having me around. Then I dropped the feelings bomb.. I had been torturing myself over my feelings and finally decided that I wanted to just tell him. After that we talked (the next day) and he let me down easy, saying that he loves me as a friend. And then suggested that we take some "space" from each other to allow me to get over my feelings. So what am I coping about? The extreme change in the friendship. Basically, it feels like I lost my best friend. I miss him terribly, and even though he is still talking to me (which I am grateful for), it just isn't nearly to the degree that it once was. I've been having a hard time dealing with it and truly just want the friendship back. Im trying to tell myself that this change was necessary for me to move on, but it does hurt. I wonder if he misses being close friends with me as much as I do with him.. He did ask if we could go to the mall today, which was a great sign.. it would have been the first time hanging out since last week. But I had to work, so he suggested this coming week. I know its a positive thing that he asked to hang out today, but I still have anxiety about whether things will keeping improving or whether we are doomed to being friends that won't ever be as close as we once were. I hope it just needs more time. All I know is that the knowledge of him only seeing me as a friend made me sad, but the threat of losing the closeness of our friendship is much scarier. yeah so just go to the mall this weekend and let it all go he told you he just see you as a friend so you got your answer .and he ask you to go to the mall so you still have your friend just move on now.. you never know maybe in the future he will see that hes in love with you ..life is crazy so you never know
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