ReadMyThread Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 So I did happened to get back with my ex after her saying she wanted to see me and talk about things. I met her on Wednesday night and it felt just like the old us. We brought up all the good memories and did a puzzle together happily. Then we began to talk about us. We talked about EVERYTHING before official getting back together after we talked. Why she dumped me, our problems, and the future us. She said I was the best thing that has happened to her and she feels so bad she threw it all away for another person who doesn't even like her. She said she realized she made a mistake 3 weeks after dumping me and that she knows what she wants now and she knows it is me. So I thought. The day after we got back together things were NOT the same. She is the one being different. We agreed that we would go back to the way we use to be and be how we use to be but that is DEFINETELY not the case here. She has changed. She doesn't text me the same anymore. Not like the way she use to. When we use to be together we would text eachorher back and forth NONSTOP all day for 9 months straight. Now she is always so short and really never puts any effort into talking to me at all in her texts. It HURTS me to text her. Honestly. It hurts me so bad that I don't even text her anymore at all. Just good morning hope your day is good and a goodnight. that's it. It seems it's only getting worse day by day. I find myself making up excuses just to not text her because it hurts. I feel we aren't even together right now. Here's the thing. SHE left me for another guy and says she wants to go back to te way it was but yet I am the one who is telling her I miss her and hope to see her today and ask her when the next time it is I will see her again. randomly telling her I love her. Shouldn't this be the other way around? She was the one who messed up! It seems she doesn't even miss me and never wants to talk to me at all. I honestly feel if I would stop texting her right now. I would NEVER get a text from her. She says she wants to work on things but it feels I am the only one trying :/. Ever since Wednesday when we got back together she hasn't even asked to see me since then. What the hell? :/. We use to be best friends. We did everything together and now it's all gone and I feel this new her will never go back to the way it was :/. I thought the more time we spend together would bring that back but it only seems to be getting worse :/. This is obvisouly going to end :/. I just wish it didn't. I miss the old her. The girl who use to love me and want to be with me every minute of the day and kiss me instead of me kissing her. I wish I could go back. It feels she doesn't even love me anymore. She says it but doesn't feel it. I honestly feel like Chaning Tatum from that movie "The Vow" as I am trying to get someone who use to love me, love me again. This is stupid. Should I talk to her? My mom says she might just be acting this way because she could be ashamed and guilty of what she did and it's hard for her thikkingni haven't forgave her but I doubt it. This girl doesn't love me anymore. You know when someone loves you and someone doesn't. God this hurts. Help.
dreamstate83 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 So I did happened to get back with my ex after her saying she wanted to see me and talk about things. I met her on Wednesday night and it felt just like the old us. We brought up all the good memories and did a puzzle together happily. Then we began to talk about us. We talked about EVERYTHING before official getting back together after we talked. Why she dumped me, our problems, and the future us. She said I was the best thing that has happened to her and she feels so bad she threw it all away for another person who doesn't even like her. She said she realized she made a mistake 3 weeks after dumping me and that she knows what she wants now and she knows it is me. So I thought. The day after we got back together things were NOT the same. She is the one being different. We agreed that we would go back to the way we use to be and be how we use to be but that is DEFINETELY not the case here. She has changed. She doesn't text me the same anymore. Not like the way she use to. When we use to be together we would text eachorher back and forth NONSTOP all day for 9 months straight. Now she is always so short and really never puts any effort into talking to me at all in her texts. It HURTS me to text her. Honestly. It hurts me so bad that I don't even text her anymore at all. Just good morning hope your day is good and a goodnight. that's it. It seems it's only getting worse day by day. I find myself making up excuses just to not text her because it hurts. I feel we aren't even together right now. Here's the thing. SHE left me for another guy and says she wants to go back to te way it was but yet I am the one who is telling her I miss her and hope to see her today and ask her when the next time it is I will see her again. randomly telling her I love her. Shouldn't this be the other way around? She was the one who messed up! It seems she doesn't even miss me and never wants to talk to me at all. I honestly feel if I would stop texting her right now. I would NEVER get a text from her. She says she wants to work on things but it feels I am the only one trying :/. Ever since Wednesday when we got back together she hasn't even asked to see me since then. What the hell? :/. We use to be best friends. We did everything together and now it's all gone and I feel this new her will never go back to the way it was :/. I thought the more time we spend together would bring that back but it only seems to be getting worse :/. This is obvisouly going to end :/. I just wish it didn't. I miss the old her. The girl who use to love me and want to be with me every minute of the day and kiss me instead of me kissing her. I wish I could go back. It feels she doesn't even love me anymore. She says it but doesn't feel it. I honestly feel like Chaning Tatum from that movie "The Vow" as I am trying to get someone who use to love me, love me again. This is stupid. Should I talk to her? My mom says she might just be acting this way because she could be ashamed and guilty of what she did and it's hard for her thikkingni haven't forgave her but I doubt it. This girl doesn't love me anymore. You know when someone loves you and someone doesn't. God this hurts. Help. Same thing happened when I got my ex fiance back when I was in my early twenties. She came back crying after trying out other grass but it just didn't feel the same any more. I'd suggest trying to approach it as you two being friends for awhile and rebuilding the spark that died out if that's what you are going for.
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 Same thing happened when I got my ex fiance back when I was in my early twenties. She came back crying after trying out other grass but it just didn't feel the same any more. I'd suggest trying to approach it as you two being friends for awhile and rebuilding the spark that died out if that's what you are going for. I can't even be friends with her anymore. She changed. It seems we run out things to talk about when we are together as there is this awkward silence. Where is the old us? She said she wanted to go back to te way it was, why isn't she acting like it? :/.
dreamstate83 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I can't even be friends with her anymore. She changed. It seems we run out things to talk about when we are together as there is this awkward silence. Where is the old us? She said she wanted to go back to te way it was, why isn't she acting like it? :/. Well not to use my ex fiance as an example, but when she came back and things felt hollow I ended up leaving her for another woman. Yep.
NavyAirTraffic Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 The day after we got back together things were NOT the same. And they never will be.... Run now, leave her and never look back!!! Her actions don't match her words. You are the soft pillow that is comforting her, healing her, boosting her ego and she will leave you at her earliest convenience. Nothing more to say here, I'll post again when you open your "She left me again" thread. 3
theLWord Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Sometimes when you break up and try to get back together, it just isn't the same. Too much pain, people change. If she cheated out you and she is acting like this, you should definitely leave her first.. it might soften the blow before she does it again. Sorry it didn't work out, maybe it'll be easier to move on this time though. At least you know you tried everything you could.
dreamstate83 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Sometimes when you break up and try to get back together, it just isn't the same. Too much pain, people change. If she cheated out you and she is acting like this, you should definitely leave her first.. it might soften the blow before she does it again. Sorry it didn't work out, maybe it'll be easier to move on this time though. At least you know you tried everything you could. Love the signature! 1
KatZee Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Yeah, unfortunately it's not reality to think the relationship will ever be "what it was." That relationship is gone. It died and was buried months ago. Is said all over these forums--- the only way a new relationship with an old ex works out is if the relationship starts from scratch and is brand new. You guys can't just pick up from where you left off. Too much has happened. Too much pain and hurt. Maybe she feels awkward around you. But you can't expect things to be great 4 days after getting back together. It's GOING to be weird and awkward and uncomfortable. But you're right-- she needs to be doing the majority of work here not you. I'd step back a bit. Let her come to you. Don't ask to see her or tell her you love her. If this has ANY chance of working it will be becaus it started off slow and you became a brand new couple.
Mcnulty Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Exact same boat, APART from the fact we're keeping it as friends, because I know by gut instinct, I couldn't make it work, knowing she left me for my mate and was shafting the evil ****,(he mistreat her badly). Just trying to build a good friendship on the foundation of having very similiar sense of humour and interests. Soiled goods...there I said it. For you mate, i would say, run for it. Trust yur gut instinct ALWAYS and look at what you have wrote on this post, that will give you your answers.
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