youngnlove89 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I want to tell him I miss him, but I don't. Gosh, why do I miss him? I haven't talked to him since Wednesday. And the weekends are the worst for me. I keep checking to see if he is online, and he is. He's been online constantly, more than normal. Is he waiting for me to say something? It's crazy how close you can get to another person. You feel as though they are a part of you. You feel as if you can't go to sleep at night without knowing that they are alright. You feel as though you can't live your life without them, they are your life. And it's crazy how things can change in the blink of an eye. Suddenly they're gone. Suddenly you're all alone with no-one but yourself to comfort you from this heartbreak. Suddenly the person you shared everything with disappears, leaving nothing but the trace of him behind. The text messages, the emails, the phone-calls. Suddenly you're incomplete, and the piece of you that is missing is with him, with him who walked away and never looked back. Sometimes silence is the most violent option to use.
KatZee Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 No. He's not waiting for you to say something- he dumped you. It doesn't really matter why he's online more than normal. If it helps you move on you should assume he's talking to a new love interest. Why do you keep chasing someone that wants nothing to do with you? Who doesn't even love you? Don't you see how you appear when you chase after him after he's told you to your face he won't ever love you? Don't you think hes just embarrassed for you at this point? Where are your friends? Weekends are hard for you because you have absolutely nothing going on. You have nothing to do, no one to see... You really need to start taking initiative and become more proactive in changing your life.
Author youngnlove89 Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 You are right. I know I do. But I'm just trying to sort out my feelings right now. He just told me that this wasn't easy for him. I don't know what to say. I knew he would talk to me. I'm not falling back in. I'm just trying to find the strength to push me through to the other side. I'm feeling my feelings so I can get there. I'm remaining strong.
KatZee Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 So he still messaging you and you're still accepting them. Youre honestly not being strong at all. BLOCK AND DELTE. Who cares what he thinks right now or how "hard" this is for him! That's not your problem anymore. Get rid of his number and block it so he can't send you messages. You apparently want to move on so why don't you ever take steps to?????
CptSaveAho Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Instead of projecting your own past mistakes onto her, why dont you listen clearly what she said But I'm just trying to sort out my feelings right now. I'm not falling back in. I'm just trying to find the strength to push me through to the other side. I'm feeling my feelings so I can get there. Takes time... this is a good start 2
Author youngnlove89 Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 Then here I go... But I just need support for when I'm weak and the times when I let the good memories over power the bad ones. I need to move on this time.
KatZee Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Instead of projecting your own past mistakes onto her, why dont you listen clearly what she said Takes time... this is a good start Save a Ho I'm really not calling you out right now to be a dick but this is the second time you have something to say about my posts to Youngnlove. I already responded with a massive post on the last which clearly went unread. 1. I am not "projecting" because I HAVE NOT made these mistakes. 2. I've been following OP from day ONE. You clearly have NOT. Please take the time to read the story from August. 3. If you're going to call me out atleast include some sort of advice of your own instead of just ragging on mine. 1
KatZee Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Then here I go... But I just need support for when I'm weak and the times when I let the good memories over power the bad ones. I need to move on this time. And honestly here I'm not quite sure what you're looking for anymore. You already have the support of your family-- specifically your mother who u talk to and who told you she was so proud of you that one time you told her you were done with this guy. Your closest family member has your back. If SHE isn't enough to keep you going than really, what can a bunch of us strangers on the Internet do for you? We can't hold your hand and walk you through a breakup and subsequent healing process. You need to move on you say but WE can't do anything for you. Everything that needs to be done needs to happen from within yourself. You obviously don't feel that strength and that's why you come here. But even if you had a million people rooting for you (as you used to months back) it won't make a difference, it obviously didn't help at all because here yôu still are doing the same things over and over. Can you see that no one is responding to you anymore? I have a spot for you still and that's why I have continued to follow your story and continue to post on your threads but the time has long passed for the coddling. It's tough love time. It's not that we're not supportive of you or don't want you to move on. It's not that we're a forum of a.ssholes. It's just time to stop acting so weak and helpless like you have no control over yourself or your life. Enough with his stupid a.ss text messages where he drags you right back into his bed. Stop feeling sorry for yourself like you're nothing without him. Get into therapy and discuss your lack of self esteem with a professional. You will see the support once you start making changes in your life and you start taking steps to progress.
Sav Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I just had to say something. I take it you're listening to taylor swift. Stop. Listen to happier songs, upbeat songs, not breakup songs 1
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