foretale Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 This is a serious question all though some mite find it stupid, depends on your interpretation. Background. Ive been dating around for about 8 months now. Im 20 years old, a bit of a late bloomer i guess in terms of relationships. Never had a legit girlfriend. Im really having trouble finding a girl that seems to be on the same level as me. Ive had some short term flings, stuff like that. Theres nothing wrong with me I've got a good career in line, been told im a good looking guy, I'm not awkward around girls. Whats going on here? I see people over and over who jump from relationship to relationship in short periods of time and keep them for a long time. Or it mite be the age too ive been thinking, it seems like not everyone is looking for more serious relationships in my age category... Advice and opinions? Ive met girls two ways. Clubbing, which I will not be doing anymore... and online dating, ive met some good ones but nothing has stuck I dont by any means feel like its something I need to be complete, but its something I would like to experience and Im ready for
ja123 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 It's possible that you've only met girls who are not into LTRs given you met them on OLD and in clubs. Why not consider joining activity groups where you might meet someone who shares a common interest? Plus, it takes time to meet the right one and for an LTR to develop. It doesn't just happen over night.
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Anybody can find a LTR, if they lower their standards enough. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 It is just possible that you are not one of the people who needs to be in a relationship. Understand that, many people especially at your age, need the validation of a rlship to feel good about themselves. You do not, and so you move on. Remember many people in relationships are not nearly as happy as they may seem. You do not need a relationship to make you a good person.
21stCenturyMale Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 It is just possible that you are not one of the people who needs to be in a relationship. Understand that, many people especially at your age, need the validation of a rlship to feel good about themselves. You do not, and so you move on. Remember many people in relationships are not nearly as happy as they may seem. You do not need a relationship to make you a good person. So people can be both happy and sad in relationships, just as people can be both happy and sad outside of being in relationships. It's just human to get happy and sad. It's really in how you overcome/deal with those feelings that determines your character. Also, statistically speaking, people in relationships have higher levels of self-confidence, happiness, and security- I think it has to do something with the fact that you're not just thinking of yourself, but of yourself with another person in the mix you regard their wellbeing also. Having said that, hey, some people are loners, and that's cool too. If you want to be in a relationship, do so. If not, don't.
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