turkey Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Dating a pilot for 5 months. Met at an online dating site, he pulled down his profile a couple months ago and we agreed to be exclusive. Recently became suspicious, looked at his phone while he was in the shower. Saw sexts. Grabbed my stuff, his phone, and left. Went through phone. He's had sex with several girls and is constantly pursuing more. Kept phone for a week. Deleted everything and gave it back. He keeps saying how the last 5 months were so amazing. He scheduled a counseling appointment a week after I stole his phone. He is very tearful and remorseful. He left roses and a card on my doorstep after I got home from a trip. Gave me $200 for an std test which was negative. Second chance?
The dot Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Dating a pilot for 5 months. Met at an online dating site, he pulled down his profile a couple months ago and we agreed to be exclusive. Recently became suspicious, looked at his phone while he was in the shower. Saw sexts. Grabbed my stuff, his phone, and left. Went through phone. He's had sex with several girls and is constantly pursuing more. Kept phone for a week. Deleted everything and gave it back. He keeps saying how the last 5 months were so amazing. He scheduled a counseling appointment a week after I stole his phone. He is very tearful and remorseful. He left roses and a card on my doorstep after I got home from a trip. Gave me $200 for an std test which was negative. Second chance? Rule # 1: No second chances, EVER. Rule # 2: Rule #1 especially applies to pilots and air-hostesses. Do you know the reputation of these people in the fidelity department? He's in other cities, other states and other countries alone -- how will you EVER know what he's been doing? Oh, you wanna steal his phone and go through it. Look, if you're that suspicious, you're probably doing yourself more harm than good by staying with this guy anyway. Do you really need that stress or drama in your life? Look, if you want to have sex with this guy, then go for it, but realise that you'll only ever be a member of the rotation at best. 2
NavyAirTraffic Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Dating a pilot for 5 months. Met at an online dating site, he pulled down his profile a couple months ago and we agreed to be exclusive. Recently became suspicious, looked at his phone while he was in the shower. Saw sexts. Grabbed my stuff, his phone, and left. Went through phone. He's had sex with several girls and is constantly pursuing more. Kept phone for a week. Deleted everything and gave it back. He keeps saying how the last 5 months were so amazing. He scheduled a counseling appointment a week after I stole his phone. He is very tearful and remorseful. He left roses and a card on my doorstep after I got home from a trip. Gave me $200 for an std test which was negative. Second chance? Re-read your original post, but this time pretend somone else wrote it and you're giving the advice. What advice would you give, what would you say?
Author turkey Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 I would say the pattern is set and will be very difficult to reverse. If progress is made in counseling, it would take awhile. I would like to be happy and get on with my life, not be dragged down by his issues. Probably best to let this one go before I wind up with Aids. There was so much talk of giving cheaters a second chance on here that I wondered if I was pushing him away based on a response of anger, especially since he immediately sought counseling. But the more I think about it, it would just be better to be with someone who hasn't lied and cheated. I don't have a lot of dating experience. The boyfrienfs I have had were very good to me for the most part. This one has been a big surprise to me.
Sasu Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Rule # 1: No second chances, EVER. Rule # 2: Rule #1 especially applies to pilots and air-hostesses. Do you know the reputation of these people in the fidelity department? He's in other cities, other states and other countries alone -- how will you EVER know what he's been doing? Look, if you want to have sex with this guy, then go for it, but realise that you'll only ever be a member of the rotation at best. Personally not a fan of Rule 1 ,But other than that everything nailed it .
Author turkey Posted November 19, 2012 Author Posted November 19, 2012 Nope, he was definitely cheating. Text messages like "thanks for the sex, you f*** so good" and texting a buddy about a flight attendant getting him off in the shower leaves little room for misinterpretation. He also confirmed these things (tears flowing) when I asked. No contact for two weeks. Trust is a must. Stealing someone's phone...shame on me. A new low. I want a partner who brings out the best in me, not the worst! 1
beyond Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Dating a pilot for 5 months. Met at an online dating site, he pulled down his profile a couple months ago and we agreed to be exclusive. Recently became suspicious, looked at his phone while he was in the shower. Saw sexts. Grabbed my stuff, his phone, and left. Went through phone. He's had sex with several girls and is constantly pursuing more. Kept phone for a week. Deleted everything and gave it back. He keeps saying how the last 5 months were so amazing. He scheduled a counseling appointment a week after I stole his phone. He is very tearful and remorseful. He left roses and a card on my doorstep after I got home from a trip. Gave me $200 for an std test which was negative. Second chance? The part in bold .......and they say romance is dead:rolleyes:
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