SingleInNC Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Hi all, I'm new here and I'm hoping you can shed some light on this for me. I just recently decided to give online dating a try after being divorced for several years. I met a nice guy with a great sense of humor and we've been exchanging emails for several weeks now. I'd overlooked the fact that his profile looks like he gave it zero effort because he's so personable and friendly in his emails. I've thoroughly enjoyed talking to him though none of it has been terribly deep. Very casual and light. Fast forward to now.. we agreed to meet at a restaurant tonight but as of yesterday hadn't set the time and exact location. So last night he initiated a chat with me on the dating site (until then it had solely been email) and we talked about planning to go out tonight, etc but his personality was dramatically different than in his emails. He gave me short, one-line replies. At one point he seemed to have no idea about my job when I made a comment about work. It's right there in my profile! He made a couple of comments that almost came across as disrespectful (sexual and a jab about the fact that I don't drink) and within a few minutes I felt like this date was an amazingly bad idea. He finally just disappeared and emailed me this morning to apologize and say that his internet connection was bad and that he fell asleep. Either way, I really want to ditch this date based on that conversation. Am I being unreasonable? If not, should I just message him and tell him thanks but no thanks? At this point he doesn't have my phone #, address, last name, etc so he can only contact me through the site. Thoughts? Thanks in advance
FitChick Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 I'm sure he was trying to set up other dates as well. That's why he joined a dating website! You have nothing to lose by going. He may decide to ditch the other women after meeting you. However, if I were you, I'd set up a phone call before the date because you can tell much more about someone by their voice than by their typing.
GirlontheLam Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Chat persona gives you no sense of what sort of real persona you have. I am a one-line chatter. I hate online chat. In real life I am a chatterbox. Go on the date and make it a fun evening.
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