six18 Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 How does a person reaching out to an ex feed ones ego? I read that Contact with an ex feeds a guy’s ego...why? My ex contacted me out of the blue today and while It was great to hear from him I was told I should not acknowledge him bc it feeds his ego? How so, if anything it felt good he thought of me more of an ego boost to me.
River Rain Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 I guess if you take that literally, you're nourishing his self-esteem. It makes him feel good, comforted to speak to you. I don't think it's a negative thing unless he's trying to make you feel guilty or stopping you from healing. 1
Hopeful714 Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Depends what type of guy he is. If he was a genuine guy, nice to you during the relationship and he reached out I would say maybe he is still interested or showing concern for you. If he wasn't nice to you during the relationship it could be that he is now out of other options and seeing if you would take the bait. Or are still interested. Be careful. If you choose to contact fine but dont be surprised or hurt if you don't hear from him again because then it was just an ego stroke for him to know he still has you. Consider before contacting if you want to re open old wounds.
NGC1300 Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 I made the mistake of contacting my ex after she broke it off. In fact I did it several times. Looking back it was the worst thing to do. Made me look pathetic and desperate while giving her the "ego boost". The bad things is, I knew all these facts before contacting her, but I was crushed and overflowing with emotion. It got the best of me.
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