sadgirl2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Hi all, I am very new to this but it would really help me to talk about it and to get some advice. I met this guy online in August. I never expected it and so I was very happy that he clicked on my profile. We chatted a lot and I really enjoyed it. He was so keen on me. I was the one to be unsure at first but he was so nice, I really enjoyed the attention and the contact. I ended my relationship with my ex in January this year but I stayed friends with him. He is very protective of me and really caring. The new guy invited me out and we had a really nice time. I was so nervous, he was nervous too but we both really enjoyed it. He bought me such a nice dinner and we had a great time. But my ex started calling me and literally spoilt the date for me. the new guy was not impressed and things got a bit heavy. He then said that he needs some time to cool down. I was so hurt and upset as I really liked him and I asked him if he wants to see me again, he said yes but he needs time. Unfortunately at that time I was too emotional to back away so I kept contacting him asking him to meet. He was saying he wants to see me again but he was too busy with work and with his move. A month later, one of my friends told me that I should really ask this guy where I stand as we did not see each other. He emailed me to say that he was really sorry but after all the drama with my ex, he could not continue. I was crushed really. We met 4 times, I know it's not a lot but I really liked him. This was a month ago. I emailed him 2 weeks ago as I left something important in his car. He was quite friendly and chatty and I asked him to meet again. He said to me that we can meet but he asked me if I thought that it would be uncomfortable. I said no. He said we can meet for a coffee after he gets back from his business trip. What should I do? I really want to email him asking him when are we going to meet for the coffee. I cannot forget him. I really like him. I feel that we have never had the chance to go out without my ex in the background, which by the way is now completely sorted. what should I do? He said we will meet but he is not emailing me? Thank you for reading this for me.
River Rain Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Big lesson learned, turn the phone off during a date. Honestly that would have totally turned me off too, but what's done is done. You obviously still like him, he doesn't seem interested though. But it's worth a second shot, I'd say go with your gut. Email him and meet with him. But you have to be prepared in case he doesn't want to continue seeing you in a romantic way though. Maybe once you're face to face, things might change, I hope so.
Author sadgirl2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Author Posted November 10, 2012 Thanks. Why did he agree to meet up again? Why if he is not interested? We don't know each other to pretend to be friends. And why was so he so keen from the start? I don't understand. He really liked him and kept telling me how much he hopes that we will work out? What I mean by things got heavy. My ex interefered so much that this new guy got all stressed out and we had quite a tense time because of that. The reason why I really would like to see him again because I feel like when he met me it was a different situation. I just dont know what to say to him now as I am the one who asked him to meet and he is the one to reply to say ok we will have a cofee at some point. What should I say? Should I wait some more? He did say that he has a business trip for 1 week and then he will take some holidays. This was 2 weeks ago. I am so sad.
River Rain Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 If it's been 2 weeks, all you can do is either wait, or email him asking him out for coffee again, and tell him when you'll be available. You risk getting no reply though. I think you're over analyzing the situation, you can't read his mind. He may have shown a lot of interest in the past, but a 2 week silence speaks quite loudly too. And may I say something? I don't want to offend you, but it's not your ex's interference that turned him off. It's that you allowed it to happen. You made him feel unimportant, that hurts a person a lot. You have to take responsibility for it and stop blaming it on your ex. Have you owned up about this, or have you always blamed it on your ex? This could be why he's still turned off of you.
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