joel Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 personally i find dating to be an expensive hobbyk the first date is not that bad but if it continues and she like u and u like her and if the guy still has to pay it is expensive expenses for the guy. that is why i think after the 5 or 6th date if she really likes me she should go 50 to 50 or swap. dating is expensive man-one night at restaurant is like 80 bucks -pay parking is $$ downtown vancouver, and at the end of the night if all u get is a kiss well what a rip off. what does the gal have to lose ,she gets a free dinner what do we lose our money -unless u make easy fast money then its ok other than that forgot about it. i'm thinkin of the bar scene pick up gals at the bars and just f*** em there buy em 3 drinks yea now and f** at least u get it lol. that why being a guy i am picky if she ain't hot then she is out -u ain worth my money worth. oh yea and i prefer WF over AF and i'm a AM. from what i read in other post WF are less money on money, assertive, fun.. as AF is the opposite that is why WF are tops
Fayebelle Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Either way- MOST women are not prostitutes and you should not have the mindframe that you should "get something" for $ spent. Perhaps you are losing women to a lack of respect- Not a lack of $
Taken_Angel Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 What a sick sad way of thinking! How can you expect something in return? can we assume this is why you have to date and don't have a GF? I wish this was a joke post but clearly you are serious so maybe you should try and go to the park, to McDonald's something cheaper then get to know the person for who they are w/out having to spend loads of money on them. It's worth a try but I'm sorry sounds like you're getting exactly what you deserve NOTHING!
EC Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Amen girls! Yeah why dont you go to the clubs and hey you can buy 3 drinks get laid and bonus = an STD! Oh yeah!
SweetBee82 Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Haha you ladies crack me up! Yeah not only is he cheap (in both ways), he's got no respect for any ladies out there.
Fritz Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Originally posted by joel personally i find dating to be an expensive hobbyk the first date is not that bad but if it continues and she like u and u like her and if the guy still has to pay it is expensive expenses for the guy. that is why i think after the 5 or 6th date if she really likes me she should go 50 to 50 or swap. dating is expensive man-one night at restaurant is like 80 bucks -pay parking is $$ downtown vancouver, and at the end of the night if all u get is a kiss well what a rip off. what does the gal have to lose ,she gets a free dinner what do we lose our money -unless u make easy fast money then its ok other than that forgot about it. i'm thinkin of the bar scene pick up gals at the bars and just f*** em there buy em 3 drinks yea now and f** at least u get it lol. that why being a guy i am picky if she ain't hot then she is out -u ain worth my money worth. oh yea and i prefer WF over AF and i'm a AM. from what i read in other post WF are less money on money, assertive, fun.. as AF is the opposite that is why WF are tops Is this a serious post? If not, meh whatever. Seriously though I kind of agree at times. I prefer dutch treat on most first dates and then whoever asks for the date pays. Sadly a lot of women espouse "equality" but then think (traditionally) that the guy should be paying for it all ( ). As for clubs/bars etc., most women you will find there are the attention whore, gold digging types you're complaining about. Its cheaper/smarter/safer to get an escort or go to a strip club and less annoying too especially if all you are after is to get laid.
faux Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 I will not pay for an entire date unless I am in an exclusive relationship with someone, and I do not make a habit of doing this. I do not often buy gifts for other people, as I show how I care through other means. Gifts do not mean much to me, nor does money being spent mean much to me. Having this done on occasion does make an impact, but I do not believe it should ever become routine. I do not understand how some people can expect me to pay to drive them around, take them to eat, and pay for entertainment, when I hardly even know them! In my dating experience, it has never been a problem for each person to pay ones own way. Most times, hardly any money aside from gas is even spent. I do not think that one must shell out to have a good time, or to have what could be considered an extremely memorable date. Instead of spending so much money on someone you hardly even know, try walking with them for free. Try sitting at a small cafe and exchanging poetry or memories. Get to know the person in little ways, then work your way up to something large. If I were to spend fifty to eighty dollars on dinner for someone, the occasion had better damned well be highly important! I just do not think it necessary to have to spend so much money on food when you are simply getting to know someone. I think the conversation and personalities should more than make up for a lack of high-class dining.
Kelebek Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 My boyfriend paid for everything on our very first date, and I was incredibly flattered. I'm not usually comfortable with that sort of thing so I begged him to let me buy him a drink (which he graciously accepted ) but everything else was paid for by him. He's paid for many of our dates since, but I've bought him a couple of small gifts (nothing big - like, if I see a DVD he'd like, or a bracelet he'd wear - he loves those cheap wooden beads!) so that's like my thank you. I love that he pays for us to go out sometimes, I feel really looked after by him. But I insist that we share petrol costs and stuff, and taxis if we're out drinking. And we buy drinks in rounds each. See, it's nice just to feel treasured a bit...like I said, I feel really well looked after. But we split costs on the majority of things and that's only fair. I would never dream of "expecting" a guy to pay stuff simply because he's a guy, that would be crap. But it's nice to feel special every now and again And in response to the first post...I agree with everyone, and I would've written exactly what Faybelle did!!!
honey2005 Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 dating is expensive man-one night at restaurant is like 80 bucks -pay parking is $$ downtown vancouver, and at the end of the night if all u get is a kiss well what a rip off. I think you need to change your attitude on women if you really want to have a girlfriend. If you just want sex, you probably still should change your attitude, cause even the people who will just have sex with you would want to be treated better than that. I think you're right about taking turns paying for things, but it does make the girl feel special when you pay for her sometimes. I don't think you should be buying her stuff just so you will get something in return (kiss, sex). If you're angry about spending so much money, take the other posters advice and do things that don't take money, like walks in the park, bike rides, etc.
adarkcloud Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 My boyfriend is real "jewish" about his money. He offers to pay everything, but he gets real stressed about money. I on the other hand can throw money out the window and not care because people need to realize money isn't happiness... ANYWAYS If he pays for something great, If i say "hey baby lets go to sonic get some drinks" I came up with the idea, I pay. If i say "hey babe lets go see a movie and go to dinner" I'll pay for the movie, he'll pay for dinner, we'll figure something out like that. If your in a realationship for longer then a few months, the guy is going to get real sick of paying for EVERYTHING, be a doll and pay for some stuff. But the idea of "getting laid for spending money on the girl" is rediculous and you are getting what you deserve.
Author joel Posted August 5, 2004 Author Posted August 5, 2004 i remeber chit chatting with this gal in one of my college classes before -not seeing her on campus anymore now. well i had a feeling she liked me -this is another gal that i caught glacing at me-so i one time had the nerve actually chatted up with her, the converation came up in dating that in idea is that the women doesn';t touch a dime and the guy pays for everything, and in her culture(viet, i am chinese) in the wedding if the family is greedy-they would even ask for more like money, gifts, jewerlry as their culture thinks that yes this guy took our daughter so he has to give us something back at that time i wasn't working and had like 200 bucks in my bank. i never dated her, she was too quite , and i thought we didn;t have anything in common, she said she didn't like sports-well i do. she even mentioned she was traditonal -as to why she preferred dating chinese guy to white guys ,but then she told me she usually dated chinese guys but ur viet if ur traditonal shouldn't u be dating viet. lol. sports-rollerblading, ride bike, walk, special events are what i am into they cost little to no money and they are way more fun-common interest, than dinner and movie. i thnk she wanted the dinner and movie kinda a guy, yea right at the end i be like 85 bucks out
Author joel Posted August 5, 2004 Author Posted August 5, 2004 the ?? i am asking is any gals out there willing to go out or hang with a guy to just go for a walk, i mean is the cheap date thing considered ok or too unclassy or low class what do u think. i think its ok but how about em. Originally posted by faux I will not pay for an entire date unless I am in an exclusive relationship with someone, and I do not make a habit of doing this. I do not often buy gifts for other people, as I show how I care through other means. Gifts do not mean much to me, nor does money being spent mean much to me. Having this done on occasion does make an impact, but I do not believe it should ever become routine. I do not understand how some people can expect me to pay to drive them around, take them to eat, and pay for entertainment, when I hardly even know them! In my dating experience, it has never been a problem for each person to pay ones own way. Most times, hardly any money aside from gas is even spent. I do not think that one must shell out to have a good time, or to have what could be considered an extremely memorable date. Instead of spending so much money on someone you hardly even know, try walking with them for free. Try sitting at a small cafe and exchanging poetry or memories. Get to know the person in little ways, then work your way up to something large. If I were to spend fifty to eighty dollars on dinner for someone, the occasion had better damned well be highly important! I just do not think it necessary to have to spend so much money on food when you are simply getting to know someone. I think the conversation and personalities should more than make up for a lack of high-class dining.
Fayebelle Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 DEFINATELY OK My BF invited me over to watch football and make dinner for our 1st date (we've known each other since high school so I was cool w/going to his house) but the point is $ wasn't the important part- for us screaming at the tv and having a quiet dinner was It worked too- we live tog now and are Super happy
HoldOn Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 Originally posted by Candy3s My boyfriend is real "jewish" about his money.
HoldOn Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 No, dates don't have to be expensive. But they do have to be planned out and nice and everything. However, if you HAVE money and refuse to spend it on a girl, then you're just being silly.
honey2005 Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 I'd be willing to hang out with a guy or just go for a walk. I don't think it's low class. What I do think is low class is if you pay for the date and then expect to get something in return at the end of it.
Dork Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 occasionally I make my girl spend some dough. If she refuses I know where she stands and I drop her the next day. but it's always customary that the guy pays for most things.. just not STUFF for her. that's wussy dom. For instance: You do not pay for her rent, You do not buy her a laptop/tv, etc. I'll pay for expensive dinners, Once in awhile.. but usually casual cheap dinners. I'll pay for some events I go to.. just not the expensive ones like those $50 plays. If she can't afford it, then we do something else. A real woman cares about her man's finances. Cause if he's all messed up, he can't take care of her!
honey2005 Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 occasionally I make my girl spend some dough. I'd prefer to be asked , but more than willing to share the expenses.
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