Having trouble, running in circles.

[TheVSilent]

Ok, so I've been dating a woman for about 4 months. We were best friends for years before this, and she has self esteem problems and never really gotten over her past mistakes and or break up with her ex boyfriend.

 

We decided to start being an official couple, and in the beginning I was a little nervous because I didn't want to mess anything up, I've been into her for years. I just wanted to show her there is people out there that really care and she can move forward with her life. The first time we had sex I couldn't get it up due to nerves, and she said some really hurtful things like I'm not a man and real men wouldn't have that problem.

 

Right there was a red flag but I was really into her so I let it go, but lately things are starting to build up in a way I can't ignore any longer, and talking about my problems with her doesn't seem to help. She has a 3 year old son that I watch on weekdays, I constantly help her out at her home, I show her affection but yet she lacks most all types of affection toward me. She wouldn't claim me as her boyfriend, she says nobody loves her, and I standing right there trying to show her I actually do. I talked to her about this and she says she's working on it, that she really loves me she just has a hard time with affection, but weeks went by, no intimate contact, no affection, she would say she is too tired or "make it quick", I've started to sense a great disconnect, I talked to her about it tonight and she blew up.

 

She told me to leave, that she already told me she is working on it, that I need to get MY priorities straight. She said that she obviously isn't good enough for me, that she is sick of talking about her not showing affection, that she can't be all over me because that isn't her style.

 

Am I missing something here? Am I talking to much about this? Aren't you supposed to show these feelings toward someone you are into instead of just saying you are into them? I don't know, the whole thing has left me depressed. We really spend every day together, I was thinking about just taking a break to see if she changes her tune, I feel like she takes me for granted.