orionboxing Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Just a general question....and I want people to explain it. What does it feel like when you find out that someone likes you or has an attraction to you? Here's the deal - I'm a part of this running group that meets weekly. I've developed a attraction to a girl who attends the group runs, but I don't think she has knows about my attraction...until now. She has a close friend that attends the group runs and I ran with her this past week...and naturally the discussion turned to this girl. After a little more small talk, I basically gave in and revealed to her friend that I thought she very attractive. As far as I know, I don't think this girl is dating anyone. I imagine this probably got back to the girl. So how does it feel for you ladies to know that there is someone out there that finds you attractive? Does it make you want to know a little more about this person who is into you? What are your thoughts? Thanks.
bob the brave Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 I'm a guy, so excuse me for butting in but I felt I should warn you you're making a classic 'wimp' mistake. I'm not calling you a wimp. I call it that, because it's a wimpy move we all make from time to time. You're asking, because you want to know if you have a green light, if the road is clear. You're using her friend and this forum to predict the likelyhood of rejection. Women like real men and real men don't fear rejection. Talk to her, not her friend.
Author orionboxing Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 I felt it was a rather tactful move on my behalf. I basically put a feeler out to see what would happen. The next time I talk with her...she will sort of know my intentions and respond to it. If she blows me off, then I'll scram.
spiderowl Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 It depends whether I am interested in the person or attracted to them myself. If neither, then it might be flattering but that's all. It wouldn't make me want to date them. If I really liked him, then I'd be pleased and hoping he would take time to talk to me and find an opportunity to ask me out. If I didn't find him attractive, I would just ignore it unless he pursued it. I would have to turn him down and I would be concerned if he still pursued it. Someone has done this recently, despite being turned down twice, and it's getting awkward. If you like the girl, chat to her and encourage her to come to you - say, suggest she walk with you some time if she'd like. If you do find she comes to you and makes an effort to talk to you, that is a good sign. If she is always happy to come to you (rather than you having to always make an effort with her), then it's a sign she likes you. It might well be worth pursuing then.
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