jwhite Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 It has been almost 2 weeks since the break up for me. I use this site mutiple times a day when I am feeling down. Is there a time I should let go of using this as a crutch? If so when should I stop?
cavalier99 Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 I've been on here for the last 5 weeks. A lot! And was just thinking about this today. LS has helped immensely. I do however wonder if i am using the site too much and if it is actually keeping me from moving on.. reading about so much heart break. There is great advise but it also like reality tv at the same time. I'm curious as to what people say.
thembones Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 I am fading after 3 months. It has been a huge help, but I mainly check here to help others where I can now. I don't check daily, but still a few times a week. Stop using it when you are ready. 2
smokey bear Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 There comes a point where you know you dont need it anymore and its doing you more worse than good, after that there comes a point where your healed and want to help others on the board because you appreciate the help you recieved. Lots of us still pop on after years 2
cavalier99 Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 (edited) Great answers. I also find I have trouble relating now to the fresh breakup posts and am super grateful that phase has passed. (Im 5 weeks out) The site does provide good feedback as to where you are in the recovery process. I guess I wonder how much advise I can truly absorb. At the end of the day it seems to be: Mourn, Keep Busy Maintain NC Get on with your life (not worry about theirs) Self improvement Dont wallow in "poor me thinking" Just my 2 cents Edited November 10, 2012 by cavalier99
songbird70 Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 I agree with the previous answers and you should stop when you are ready. I don't check this site as much as I used to because it brings back the hurt seeing so many others going through so much pain as I did...BUT at the same time it has helped me immensely. Just knowing others are going through the same and I'm not alone in my pain. I've also read some excellent advice given, but I don't need it as much anymore as I used to. So again, you will know when the time will come to not use this site and you will slowly start to fade from it.
shayla Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 It took me a long time to get over my breakup. I stayed here as long as I needed to, especially through that first holiday season, man that sucked!But it was nice knowing that I was not the only one feeling like crap at christmas time. Now I stop in a few times a week,mostly to let others know that there is life on the other side of a crushing, ugly breakup.
mishy Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 i think stopping just comes naturally, you wont even consciously be aware that you've stopped. Because you will be feeling healed and wont need it
suladas Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 When I first came here it was mostly for this section, but now I use the whole site. For a while whenever I came on here and reading this section it would get me down again about my BU but that's over. I have no intention to stop using this site.
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