NGC1300 Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 I'm kind of absorbed in the online dating thing. Thus far I've only met one girl from there, but frankly she turned out to be a crazy deceptive whore. At the moment, I've been looking over dozens of profiles, and just can't find anyone I really feel compelled to message. The few that I have, haven't answered. I'm so inexperienced with women, that I've been contemplating the idea of messaging and possibily dating women I KNOW I'll eventually break up with, either because I don't find them attractive enough, or because their lifestyle/backgound just won't work. I guess you could say, I'm thinking of dating for the sake of dating. Of course, there's the possibility of sex too. I think I need more experience in that area too. The thing is, there's really no way to do this without misrepresenting yourself. At some level, I would have to lie, and maybe even show affection that I didn't really feel. In a sense, I would be setting myself up to do something similar to what my ex did, and that is to possibily hurt people. So, in that regard, I guess I'd be somewhat hypocritical by "using" someone that way. But I just feel like doing this will be better than doing nothing, or waiting around for some beauty queen that I may very well never meet. I see it as a sick game, for my own amusement and personal growth. Does it make me a horrible person?
suladas Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 If you are interested in them, message them, ask them out see where it goes, it if doesn't go anywhere on to the next one that's dating and everyone expects that. If you just message every girl there and go on as many dates as possible knowing you have no interest in them and just go out to go out, that's different but why would you do that?
Author NGC1300 Posted November 10, 2012 Author Posted November 10, 2012 If you are interested in them, message them, ask them out see where it goes, it if doesn't go anywhere on to the next one that's dating and everyone expects that. If you just message every girl there and go on as many dates as possible knowing you have no interest in them and just go out to go out, that's different but why would you do that? I guess I'm talking about girls I find slightly attractive, but know in my heart I will soon end it. As far as the why's, I guess you could say expanding my experience. Sort of a growth process, so that when I do meet a girl I really fall for, I'll be better positioned to retain her. I guess I'm weird, but this is how I've been thinking lately.
suladas Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 I guess I'm talking about girls I find slightly attractive, but know in my heart I will soon end it. As far as the why's, I guess you could say expanding my experience. Sort of a growth process, so that when I do meet a girl I really fall for, I'll be better positioned to retain her. I guess I'm weird, but this is how I've been thinking lately. The way I see it, you do need to meet them in person if you're on the fence about them being attractive but once meeting them you should be able to make a clear decision either way. You shouldn't start seeing someone knowing you will end it soon, it just doesn't make sense to do it. The only experience you will gain by going on some dates is just being better at the first few dates, which honestly I don't think most people care about. I want the other to be nervous on the first few, and it's good to be, because it means you don't do it a lot. If you mean get into an actual relationship for a few months with someone you don't really like just to get experience, yes that would make you an awful person, please don't do that.
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