Inviv_girl Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Hi guys, I really need some advice here. I broke up with my ex around two and a half months ago, Im still hurting after the break up, he ended the relationship, he said his feeling changed. I still cry almost everyday. We were together before but because of the job it separate us half of the world. We still in contact with each other. The NC didnt last long, max 6 days, he broke it by contacting me and I somehow cant ignore him even though sometimes took me 2 days to answer him. And then we go back to almost everyday chat and stuffs. He wants to know how am I doing and if Im ok. People advice for NC and I wanted to do NC for a month or so, but Im confuse here.. in my heart I really hope that one day we can be together again and build more stronger relationship than before. Isnt it better to stay friends, stay in touch to gain trust again before we step into relationship again ? Should I tell him that we should stay NC from now, just in case he will contact me later on when Im off? I dont feel like just stay quiet and he will just forget about me.. I really confuse Thanks so much for your time reading this and give the advice.
coffeebean201 Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 You sound much more upset than he does about the situation. Everytime he calls/messages - remember how much more upset you get than he does. He said his feelings for you changed. His actions/words since then seem to match that.
Simon Phoenix Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Don't tell him you are going NC, just do it. Seems lame to tell someone that you aren't going to talk to them anymore. Unless he's harrassing you and not giving you peace, just fade away.
songbird70 Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Hi guys, I really need some advice here. I broke up with my ex around two and a half months ago, Im still hurting after the break up, he ended the relationship, he said his feeling changed. I still cry almost everyday. We were together before but because of the job it separate us half of the world. We still in contact with each other. The NC didnt last long, max 6 days, he broke it by contacting me and I somehow cant ignore him even though sometimes took me 2 days to answer him. And then we go back to almost everyday chat and stuffs. He wants to know how am I doing and if Im ok. People advice for NC and I wanted to do NC for a month or so, but Im confuse here.. in my heart I really hope that one day we can be together again and build more stronger relationship than before. Isnt it better to stay friends, stay in touch to gain trust again before we step into relationship again ? Should I tell him that we should stay NC from now, just in case he will contact me later on when Im off? I dont feel like just stay quiet and he will just forget about me.. I really confuse Thanks so much for your time reading this and give the advice. I'm not an advocate of NC in certain situations but the fact that he said 'his feelings changed' leads me to believe that NC is the best for you in this case. Once a person's feeling change about you they usually don't change back. I have felt this way a couple of times, and unfortunately...my feelings NEVER changed back. It's time to move on and find someone that will not change their feelings for you and I wish you much luck :-)
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