Caligrown Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Hey, This is my first post on here and to be honest im kind of nervous, but I'm going for it. My story: Im in my 20s as well as my husband. I am a military spouce and now relocated to the beautiful state of Colorado. I made my own page because I need something. I'm sure this sight isnt the answer, but maybe someone on here might have it. My most recent problem: I have gained about 50 pounds in the last year. My self-esteem has dropped and I am not as active as Iused to be. I work 55 hours a week and go to school full time for nursing, I dont get weekends off and between school and work I dont have a full day off. My husband says he loves me either way, skinny or thick, but I cant help but notice his perfect 6 pack and how he loves to work out. When we first met I was in very good shape but the kicker is I wasnt nearly as swamped with responsibilities as I am now. We don't have any children, just a dog. I know he really love me either way, my other problem is I feel like he is now too good for me, and mu insecurities come in. Does anyone out there go through such emotions, am I crazy?
mercy Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Hey, This is my first post on here and to be honest im kind of nervous, but I'm going for it. My story: Im in my 20s as well as my husband. I am a military spouce and now relocated to the beautiful state of Colorado. I made my own page because I need something. I'm sure this sight isnt the answer, but maybe someone on here might have it. My most recent problem: I have gained about 50 pounds in the last year. My self-esteem has dropped and I am not as active as Iused to be. I work 55 hours a week and go to school full time for nursing, I dont get weekends off and between school and work I dont have a full day off. My husband says he loves me either way, skinny or thick, but I cant help but notice his perfect 6 pack and how he loves to work out. When we first met I was in very good shape but the kicker is I wasnt nearly as swamped with responsibilities as I am now. We don't have any children, just a dog. I know he really love me either way, my other problem is I feel like he is now too good for me, and mu insecurities come in. Does anyone out there go through such emotions, am I crazy? There is a forum specifically geared towards your problem. Physical Fitness, Health & Weight Management Click the Alert Us and ask a moderator to move your thread there. Welcome!
Ninja'sHusband Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 I'm not clear that she thinks she has time to even try to lose the weight. I think it would be good to figure out how to make a better schedule. I gained a lot of weight, lost confidence...then my wife cheated on me. Now we are divorcing. I would bet the 50 pounds does matter to him, no matter what he says unfortunately. You really want to believe that it doesn't matter to you...he probably even believes it himself. I dunno. I hate to be a downer. I know med school is insane. Maybe you just need time to work through that and then pull yourself together. That was my plan actually, I told me wife I was going to go on a exercise spree soon, she didn't really believe me. Then I did and started losing weight. 2 months later I found out she had been cheating ugh....and she had been for like 4 months. I loath posting this..but it's just my experience. Maybe some other people will represent the fluffier happier side of things
manup Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Hey, This is my first post on here and to be honest im kind of nervous, but I'm going for it. My story: Im in my 20s as well as my husband. I am a military spouce and now relocated to the beautiful state of Colorado. I made my own page because I need something. I'm sure this sight isnt the answer, but maybe someone on here might have it. My most recent problem: I have gained about 50 pounds in the last year. My self-esteem has dropped and I am not as active as Iused to be. I work 55 hours a week and go to school full time for nursing, I dont get weekends off and between school and work I dont have a full day off. My husband says he loves me either way, skinny or thick, but I cant help but notice his perfect 6 pack and how he loves to work out. When we first met I was in very good shape but the kicker is I wasnt nearly as swamped with responsibilities as I am now. We don't have any children, just a dog. I know he really love me either way, my other problem is I feel like he is now too good for me, and mu insecurities come in. Does anyone out there go through such emotions, am I crazy? lose weight then, it isn't rocket science eat less, move more
threebyfate Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 A pound of fat is approximately equivalent to 3500 calories. This means that if you reduce your caloric intake and exercise daily, you can easily and safely lose a pound a week by consuming less and through exercise burning, 500 calories a day. Reduce a pound a week and you can lose 52 pounds a year. If you run for 20 minutes, this is equivalent to the burning of a couple of hundred calories. Reduce caloric intake by 300 calories and you've met the 500 daily caloric reduction. Anyways, this is really up to you but I would recommend that even if your husband doesn't care, for your own emotional and physical health, it might be worthwhile to lose the extra weight.
QueenDiva Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Wish there was something I could say or do to motivate you to find the little places in your hectic day to make some changes. All I can really say is MAKE THE TIME FOR YOURSELF because if you don't you will regret it. I have almost thought that losing my image and my highschool sweetheart (at the time) wasn't worth being a nurse. Turns out he wasnt worth it anyway but I had the same problem as you. It was killing my self confidence and I couldnt handle that on top of work and school. So I would make time to do sit ups before I left or walk to work instead of take the car or stairs instead of elevator and healthier eating choices, cause living off fast food and hospital lunches was not doing it for me. So make the time and make yourself happy.
standtall Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 Cali..the physical difference between you and your spouse is getting a little too much..no matter what he says. He is just trying to not hurt your feelings, but eventually he will move on. Lose weight.
lulee Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 I am also a military spouse and i def get the whole them working out thing! My husband is super in to working out, and i am the complete opposite. I do try every now and then but get so caught up in work and school i kind of put working out second and possible third to never. Don't ever think he is too good for you, you are just as good. Regardless what he says they do notice, my husband loves it when i work out specially with him because we get to have this time together just me and him time going for a jog or what not. You should try it out it helps both self esteems and your relationship. Try working out together, my husband loves when we exercise together it makes him excited to see me go with him since he loves exercising so much it helps both of us. Exercising also helps boost your confidence and if you share this time together it helps both of you two out.
newmoon Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 (edited) the part that stands out to me is that you're studying to be a nurse. what type of nurse cannot take care of her own health? you should know better and strive for better - for yourself and your marriage. i'm not sure many guys will still be attracted to a woman 50 pounds heavier, especially without reason - it's not from pregnancy or other illness so it really stems from your own inability to manage your time/stress, etc. your husband will see that and eventually fall out of love/attraction. Edited November 20, 2012 by newmoon
eleanorrigby Posted November 20, 2012 Posted November 20, 2012 A 50lb weight gain in a year is significant. Have you been to the doctor?
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