pooloflife Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 Just saw my exs new partner ,followed him to see were they live togethe, he caught me following him so i drove off, is this an criminal offence,i know i should not of done it ,but i feel so revengefull, he chased her for over a year,and yes i know she was not dragged, away cant help how i feel at the moment, i know it was stupid,how do you control yourself and stop the urge to kill him.
mammasita Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 That doesn't sound like a criminal offense, but I think you might benefit from talking to a counselor/therapist.
seany25 Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 I understand the urge to kill him, or maybe even her. Except i understand it on a much larger scale. Read my thread & you might find that your situation is not so bad. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/341009-hatred-revenge Give some backround info or details of your situation.
Author pooloflife Posted November 9, 2012 Author Posted November 9, 2012 Hi everyone posted details of break up on previous threads, together 29 years ,last year really tried the relationship ,and it failed,she said all the usual i no longer love ,i hope you find someone etc,we were planning to split in march next year when i get promotion and could afford my own place.Found out 4weeks ago she has been seeing another man ,who she has developed feelings for,i found a love song lyric sheet with her and his initials on with arrow through the heart i asked her and she admitted she had been on walks with him.I asked her to leave the family home and she moved to my daugthers,his wife found out and kicked him out,turns out he has been chasing her for over a year, they now after 3weeks moved into a flat.I know our relationship was over but this deciet at the end makes it so much harder to handle,why did they both not wait until they were separated to start there relationship.So thats why i want to kill him,he knew my partner was vulnerable,and took advantage,constantly paying her compliments, saying how lovely she is,they only knew each other from work,my partner was a waitress ,he was a customer i just thought typical situation you would get in a restaurant asked her several months ago was anything happening between them and she denied it.I am left knowing the relationship was over ,but dealing with her being with another man already really hurts and mAKES ME ANGRY.
seany25 Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 F***, i've never even been in a relationship for 29 weeks never mind 29 years! Why don't you just go & bang other women? Going out & at least trying to pull chicks will be much more rewarding use of your energy than focusing it all on revenge. However, i 100% understand that it is easier said than done. I'm only 27, but i have experienced severe heartache & pain. Two nights ago my ex reignited all the vengeful angry feeling i had put behind me, & now i am going to take it out on either her ex bf who was sleeping in the same bed as her & my son (this was what reignited those feelings) or someone, anyone, close to her.
seany25 Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 I've read your post. I had a similar situation. Me and my ex were together for 8 years. We have a 4 year old daughter. In August I noticed a change in her behavior, only to find out from a friend another man was involved. My ex denied everything, so I knew I'd have to find the truth for myself. One night I came to her house, walked in her room to catch her in bed with the guy and my daughter in the same bed. I left her, and my daughter. Haven't seen them in over a month. You should do the same. Your son is going to be damaged from this situation regardless, and the longer you stay around it, the longer you will stay angry. I went through all the same feelings you are, and they are starting to disappear. Your 27, you have alot of time to start a real family. I'm an educated man (sociology major), and I can tell you your son, like my daughter, is in for a challenging life of problems due to the family situation. Not fair, but it's reality. Cut your loses, start over, and choose wisely who you sleep with from here on out. How were you able to walk away from your daughter after 4 years of a relationship? Why give up so easily? Did you move away? I moved 50 miles away to escape the pain & start my life again, but i did intend to be back for my boy, which was working fine till she told me her ex shared their bed. I have a few options, 1 - Still see my boy every fortnight like i was, except now it will be her mum bringing him to me. 2 - Get my life in order then be back for him in the not so distant future. 3 - Kill/severely injure her ex or someone close to her, & probably go to jail. 4 - Become a pick up artist (google it) or 5 - Hope she comes around & forgives me for losing it. Technically i will do all of these actually.
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