LDR break up

[Inviv_girl]

I broke up with my ex around two and a half months ago, we still in contact with each other through chat, phone calls, Skype. We were together before but because of the job it separate us half way around the world.

 

My NC didnt last long, max 6 days, he broke it by contacting me and I somehow cant ignore him eventhough sometimes took me 2 days to answer him. And then we go back to almost everyday chat and stuffs. He wants to know how am I doing and if Im ok.

 

Im still hurting after the break up, he ended the relationship, he said his feeling changed. I still cry almost everyday

 

People advice for NC and I wanted to do NC for a month or so, but Im confuse here.. in my heart I really hope that one day we can be together again and build more stronger relationship than before, isnt it better to stay friends, stay in touch to gain trust again before we step into relationship again ?

 

Should I tell him that we should stay NC from now, just in case he will contact me later on when Im off?

Edited November 9, 2012 by Inviv_girl

[bolainmarsh7]

hi Timehealsall, youre right but in her case you should see into his reason. he left her a week after he got back to France. I saw that because he is afraid of the distance and being apart. how can you get back with ex without contact?

of course she can do limited contact after she completely ready to be his friend and her feeling is ready for any response she might gets from him.

in her case he is the one who initiated contact with her.

you can see in this forum how many girls get her ex back after limited contact?

and how many girls get back with her ex because no contact at all for a long time?

its true no contact is for our feeling. but not to get our exes back.

maybe our exes come after no contact just because they want to get back in contact, but not because truly love us.

but with limited contact we do back and forth and not too available, and we can see how their response, and they would be more open to us after getting closer and closer. eventually they will more comfortable with us and want more than friendship.

 

and I told her to do no contact first, that is to give them both space as you said. but you can not get him back by only use no contact.

if you just do no contact and wait him to come and crawling back, that won't works at all.

he will thinks that you don't even care and close all the chances.

[Sasu]

He cares for you and maybe at some extent love you still as well ...but again long distance is not a very good excuse to end a relationship if u really want someone.

 

As for now..Being in NC is a good option .I personally doesn't like idea much although.

Ever wonder how it will feel to take his place of dominance and turn tables around ? where he will want to be with you and things will be upto you ..

 

For that you gotta get stronger mentally and find something else to focus on rather than getting him back.Get in his shoes and talk normally with him as you're doing fine,think of its like .Its not about you wanting him back...But show you are just fine and have other things to focus on rather than a relationship.Dun move on or tell you are seeing someone,,it will close all chances ..

 

The method doesn't guarantee getting back together but its way better than going NC in your situation..Just be strong,go along with flow and focus on something else productive ...like job\studies.