lovebug1234 Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 I've written about this guy before. He was a guy that I had a crush for 3 years, I knew we weren't going to be together but I really wanted to sleep with him. I finally just asked him out and he said he would love to sleep with me. Anyway long story short, he couldn't get it up. Problem, now we're not even talking anymore. People told me to give him some space, it's been over a month and we still don't talk. I'm really sad about this, I really want to try to sleep with him again but if he doesn't want to, I want to at least have the friendship back. What can I DO?
musemaj11 Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 Because you were the one who wanted it, the guy felt overwhelming expectation to perform. As a result his tool malfunctioned and now he is avoiding you due to tremendous shame.
MrCastle Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 Maybe spring it on him? I think if you try to set a date and time to try this again he may get anxious and think back to what happened before. Maybe just say something like "look let's just move on and forget that ever happened, I just want to hang out with you." Then once you meet up with him, start turning up the heat until he's ready to go.
ascendotum Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 ^ This is my opinion too OP. When you say "and we still don't talk", my guess is that you are waiting for him to initiate something. Assuming he was sincere in that he would love to sleep with you, I can only guess that what's stopping him is embarrassment over his poor performance the last time. Some women would be understanding and some not. Did you reassure him it was fine and no problem you are happy to rollover the sleep over to the following week or did you go all quite on him? In normal circumstances you could wait for the guy to initiate, but I think in this scenario you need to reassure him you still want to have some fun and he has not blown his chances.
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