cant get over him

[mscupcake]

its been 9mths since we broke up.. we were together for 4 years and this is the 3rd time we broke up.. i have never felt that i could not trust him..i dont know why, he never gave me a reason not to..i dont know if it because i was scared he left or just because i dont trust people easy...this made him leave..i know trust is a big part of a relationship..i tried everything to do it but i could help it my actions led him to leave...he said i was not what he wanted..and he was not in love with me anymore.. i wish i could change the past but i cant..i wish i did not do does things but i did..wish i did not go through his phone but i did..

 

i feel stuck i cant help but hold on to the past...since we broke up i have been with him a couple times even though i know it would help my situation..i know that it would not help me get over him..it makes me soo happy to be with just..its like i m addicted.. when i m with him he is like a totally different person ...its like he still in love with me..like he still my boyfriend..but when i not its like he hates me again...it hurts sooo much to know this the one person i want to be with and he doesnt want to be with me.. and i cant figure out why...i cant figure why we could try and fix it...he told me to get over him..but i dont know how..

 

i behave so psycho,stalking his facebook profile, even going on his fbk as i still have his pwd. we stopped talking because he realized i still go on his fbk cuz i confronted him about talking to a girl..he got angry and said he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore..even though i explained that i cant see him with anybody else but me..he said he does not want a girlfriend and that he has had enough of that for awhile..

 

i tried deleting him from bbm so i would not talk and annoy him..but i still find ways..i emailed him my feelings but he didnt seem to care.i wish i would just stop..i wish i could just turn off my feelings towards him..i cant stop crying at night..i cant sleep at night..i cant eat..i cant study..i just want him off my mind.. i try to occupy myself..so i would not think of him..but everything i do reminds me of him..i cant erase the memories of him..

 

what did i do to the deserve this..why is this happening to me..i want him back..why doesnt he want me..today is his bday and i tried calling to tell him happy birthday but he just ignored the call.. i just feel like i am nothing to him..now..and he is everything to me still.. i miss him soo much..i wish he would realise i m still madly i love with him..

[LostOne1]

its been 9mths since we broke up.. we were together for 4 years and this is the 3rd time we broke up.. i have never felt that i could not trust him..i dont know why, he never gave me a reason not to..i dont know if it because i was scared he left or just because i dont trust people easy...this made him leave..i know trust is a big part of a relationship..i tried everything to do it but i could help it my actions led him to leave...he said i was not what he wanted..and he was not in love with me anymore.. i wish i could change the past but i cant..i wish i did not do does things but i did..wish i did not go through his phone but i did..

 

i feel stuck i cant help but hold on to the past...since we broke up i have been with him a couple times even though i know it would help my situation..i know that it would not help me get over him..it makes me soo happy to be with just..its like i m addicted.. when i m with him he is like a totally different person ...its like he still in love with me..like he still my boyfriend..but when i not its like he hates me again...it hurts sooo much to know this the one person i want to be with and he doesnt want to be with me.. and i cant figure out why...i cant figure why we could try and fix it...he told me to get over him..but i dont know how..

 

i behave so psycho,stalking his facebook profile, even going on his fbk as i still have his pwd. we stopped talking because he realized i still go on his fbk cuz i confronted him about talking to a girl..he got angry and said he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore..even though i explained that i cant see him with anybody else but me..he said he does not want a girlfriend and that he has had enough of that for awhile..

 

i tried deleting him from bbm so i would not talk and annoy him..but i still find ways..i emailed him my feelings but he didnt seem to care.i wish i would just stop..i wish i could just turn off my feelings towards him..i cant stop crying at night..i cant sleep at night..i cant eat..i cant study..i just want him off my mind.. i try to occupy myself..so i would not think of him..but everything i do reminds me of him..i cant erase the memories of him..

 

what did i do to the deserve this..why is this happening to me..i want him back..why doesnt he want me..today is his bday and i tried calling to tell him happy birthday but he just ignored the call.. i just feel like i am nothing to him..now..and he is everything to me still.. i miss him soo much..i wish he would realise i m still madly i love with him..

 

wow 9 months is long for a BU and not be over it. I'm at about 3 months and feel almost at the acceptance stage now. I know no matter what I do she will never come back to me, nor can I ever win her back. So I've let it go and I just tell myself someone else is out there and we both will find each other one day.

 

Right now I've been watching A LOT of movies and tv to keep myself happy and my mind off things and honestly.. it's helped A LOT!

 

at 9 months you should accept it's over. It took me awhile too, but what I learned is when your busy with work, school and other things... you just have less time to think and then you slowly get away from the pain.

 

Go hang out with friends, go out and have a drink and talk to them. It's the best way to get over stuff like this.. my friends always took walks with me and let me vent.

[mishy]

everybody deals with a break up in different ways and theers no rule about how long it takes.

 

It is very much like the grief you go through when someone dies, in that no one has any right to tell you how long you should grieve for . I have been through this myself

 

You have to wait until he is ready to talk though to you or you are just going to make things worse.