Cb3657 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 I will bet that after you get married or are in a long term relationship you will believe that dating a married person is a sign of low respect for relationships. I am a little confused by jat boy here my read was he was saying - he is sure she did this therefore if she does not confess she is a liar but if she does confess she is scum for being a person of low virtue. Now he has said he just wants to hear from her that she did not do this and all will be right with the world. Jat boy will you believe her? If not why do you strive to hear this? She may be beautiful but in your eyes she seems to be damaged. I personally would be able to set this aside as a " learning" but you seem to think that culturally this would make her not worthy of you. You have to be prepared to accept either that she did not do this-on her word alone, or that you can live with it if she did. Other than that I see no good outcome for either of you, you lose a beautiful partner, she loses her reputation. 1
jimloveslips Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 Because it shows what kind of person she really is. No it doesn't, it shows she's like everyone else and screws up sometimes. You have no idea what she was going through at that time. The sex may have been totally incidental to the emotional support she got at the time. Or she just like to screw around! It doesn't matter, her past is her past. Do you have any evidence not trust her NOW? Or are you just trying to dig up something so you can dump her?
mass millz Posted November 15, 2012 Posted November 15, 2012 OMG....Bro this is getting really pathetic!! Tell the guys at work to STOP TALKING $H!T.... If it was my girl that's what I would do. It is not a rumor, she did in fact likely sleep with the boss. The other workers hate on her cause she didn't give them the time of day...Is it yours or anyone else business? She will appreciate the fact you stuck up for her, if you put an end to the "rumor". Dumping the girl you really like cause the guys think she is a slut for sleeping with someone when she was 20 almost 10 years ago is really immature. You are gonna mess up a good thing for something so childish.
sayyes19 Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 OMG....Bro this is getting really pathetic!! Tell the guys at work to STOP TALKING $H!T.... If it was my girl that's what I would do. It is not a rumor, she did in fact likely sleep with the boss. The other workers hate on her cause she didn't give them the time of day...Is it yours or anyone else business? She will appreciate the fact you stuck up for her, if you put an end to the "rumor". Dumping the girl you really like cause the guys think she is a slut for sleeping with someone when she was 20 almost 10 years ago is really immature. You are gonna mess up a good thing for something so childish. If you plan on going further with this girl it is obvious that you will have to ask her about this incident. Whatever the answer is I bet that you will want to stay with her, but if your colleagues comments sway you then it wasn't meant to be. If that's the case then move on to greener pastures. However, once you have resolved the issue with her get some balls and tell your coworkers to shut the hell up. I wouldn't let a best friend talk about my girlfriend in front of me the way your coworkers do. edit: Sorry for quoting the wrong person. The point still stands.
AlexDP Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 It's none of your business what she did when she was not involved with you on a romantic level, what matters is what she does now as long as you are involved with her. Why would you date her if this bothers you. If she did it when she was with you I can understand, but are you afraid that she might do it again, and now? If you are then dump her and move on, and stay out of her past. There is a name for people who exchange sex for goods and money. I can see why the OP would not like to date such people. 1
youdunsay Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 Its not excusing her, its understanding her and understanding where she is coming from. A young girl is easily taken advantage by an older man. Unless she is really skilled with men she won't know until it happens. Or she's lucky enough to get away from that old man in the very last minute. It is your personal evaluation on her. May be that old man is a lecher.
sayyes19 Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 It's none of your business what she did when she was not involved with you on a romantic level, what matters is what she does now as long as you are involved with her. Why would you date her if this bothers you. If she did it when she was with you I can understand, but are you afraid that she might do it again, and now? If you are then dump her and move on, and stay out of her past. Yes! We should never judge anyone of things they've done in their past. When people **** up they have to compensate for it in one way or another. It's life. Deal with it. I know women hate to be judged for any reason, but actions do and have always spoken louder than words. 1
road Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 Or she's lucky enough to get away from that old man in the very last minute. It is your personal evaluation on her. May be that old man is a lecher. May be that young girl is a lechette? Unless the thread starter comes back posting her is pointless.
Author Jat Boy Posted November 17, 2012 Author Posted November 17, 2012 This Diwali our current boss gave her a diwali gift.. And she was the only person whom he gave a gift in our office.. His intentions are not good towards her which i have been noticing since quite a few days.. He has been giving quite a lot attention to her since few months.. Should she had accepted the gift or not??
Later82012 Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 (edited) Stop complaining and crying and talk to your boss and tell him she is your girlfriend and that you two are considering getting married and ask him to keep off her. Edited November 18, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
road Posted November 18, 2012 Posted November 18, 2012 This Diwali our current boss gave her a diwali gift.. And she was the only person whom he gave a gift in our office.. His intentions are not good towards her which i have been noticing since quite a few days.. He has been giving quite a lot attention to her since few months.. Should she had accepted the gift or not?? This post is a total waste of time. Why? You are avoiding the original purpose of getting to the truth. Did you sit down and ask your GF if she dated and had sex with the OM/boss? If not why not? If you did why are you not sharing this? What is a Diwali and a Diwali gift? But don't answer about no Diwali stuff until you have taken care of all of the previous questions with answers.
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