GirlontheLam Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 This is actually quite accurate, and ties into my new theory about types. Interesting...types....is there a thread? I know that I am absolutely attracted to the life of the party/center of attention guy. (Cliche I know.) I am not necessarily the center of attention girl, but I am the "center of entertainment" (and a "social butterfly") for sure. When I meet a charismatic person, then it is like an instant party. So there is usually chemistry, just from being similar in terms of the way people are "drawn" to us. So it isn't really the fact they are charismatic that makes me attracted, but the way I end up relating to those people, it ends up being a lot of fun for both of us, since we have that in common. And this can overcome physical type for me in some cases, if we have enough similarities in interests and sense of humor.
ThaWholigan Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 What is this new theory of yours??? I was of the belief that you could create attraction - a misguided belief that stemmed from reading PUA. A fundamental ideology from PUA is that you can create attraction with any woman, and that any woman with which it was too easy to get her or she was too attracted to you off the bat without game is "fools mate" (or basically luck). I have since realized that this is BS to a large extent and have since discarded that belief. I now have started to think that women in fact have personal types that they respond to most. It's almost like astrology in a way, where one guy will have his mars in her 5th house or some sh*t and she's just inexplicably drawn to him even though he looks like crap. Some of them will be extraordinary good looking, others will be meh. Some will resonate with her on a very deep level. Basically, physical chemistry is not just dictated to by looks, although many men and women experience attraction on a very aesthetic level, which is normal. But there are lots of people who experience it in a variety of ways, and as such, have a type that they respond to regarding that individual experience of attraction. Basically, women have a type, probably 20% of guys that she will meet will fall into this type, and not all of them are super-good looking tall guys with money.
Prometheus Pyrphoros Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 XX uses this "no more chemistry" excuse to dump XY due to an imminent upgrade. Spark is what she feels (lust) when she gets a chance to be with an alpha male (in her eyes that is). Plain and simple.
iris219 Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 About the bold: Hang on, women see your pics online before you meet. So she would already know whether you're physically attracted, right? (Assuming your photos are an accurate representation of your looks -- so no "my space" angles and so forth.) Yes, but chemistry has little to do with how you look.
serial muse Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 (edited) When an acid and a base love each other very much, they get together and make a salt. /Chemistry Yes, but it isn't as simple as being "Attractive." The physical chemistry can be surprisingly unrelated to looks. I can think of plenty of men I found attractive, but wasn't even remotely interested in pursuing. No "chemistry." In fact, I can think of one guy that works in my office. I can think of a dozen friends that would find him hot. And I am not even remotely interested (even though we get along well.) This is true, and was an interesting complication to OLD. There were guys I found attractive in their photos who I met in person and was like, meh. And in other cases, I met a few guys in person because they sounded interesting but their pics didn't pull me in - but when we met the attraction sparked. I honestly don't know what produces this in some cases and not others - sometimes it's the give and take of the conversation, if it feels like we "get" each other. Sometimes it's more primal than that. I haven't always been attracted to conventionally handsome guys; it's really something more than that. Haha, what I meant to say is that I met a few XY in person, etc. and so forth. Edited November 9, 2012 by serial muse
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