Author HeartBrokenInNY Posted November 10, 2012 Author Posted November 10, 2012 he's killing me with his "kindness" i don't want to be his FRIEND!!! But I'm afraid NOT to, since he was my best friend for all these years, he really was
whichwayisup Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 he's killing me with his "kindness" i don't want to be his FRIEND!!! But I'm afraid NOT to, since he was my best friend for all these years, he really was But he isn't your friend now, and that's what you need to focus on. His 'kindness' comes with strings attached and manipulation. Selfishly. This friendship cannot happen , he's knows it, you know it too - SO don't let him rope you into this. 1
smokey bear Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 Does his wife know about you and the friendship? My guess is no. Are you invited to their house, involved in their life? Go to parties, or go for dinner with them as a couple? My guess is no..Again. Also, you are in total denial. Sorry but no man will be allowed in your heart because of what you feel for him. I agree with LFH, you're fooling yourself yet can't see that because you're in too deep. Please, please do not tell tell me how i feel and how i act etc, im not in deep at all and i know i may be an axception to the rule. I loved him dearly as a friend before, during and still after. Love is love, true love is love deeply and does not change wether you are with them or not. Attracted to them or not.
smokey bear Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 can i ask if you have anyone else in your life? Yes, i have a lovely gentleman who one day i will hopefully marry, i have no romantic feelings for the xmm at all. We just didnt work well together as a couple but as friends we are fantastic, its that simple and we both know and accept it.
Author HeartBrokenInNY Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 Yes, i have a lovely gentleman who one day i will hopefully marry, i have no romantic feelings for the xmm at all. We just didnt work well together as a couple but as friends we are fantastic, its that simple and we both know and accept it. I guess that's one way of dealing with it. I wish I could be like you and be able to convince myself the same...
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