Siphus Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Hi... First off i'd like to say that ive been with my girlfriend for about 8 months now, and we have had a great time, but tonite she told me that she isnt satisfied (not in bed, in life) and isnt happy... I know she is, because we laugh and have fun, and do things she never has before, and we trust each other ALOT, but she gets in these mood swings where she thinks everything is terrible... I'm 20 and she is going away to college in a different state in about 9 more months (maybe), and she is just feeling like we are going no where... ive never met anyone like this girl, and i honetsly think i could marry her... Is there something i can say or do to fix things? How can i get her to understand how i feel about her? Shes happy one week, and then 3 later she wants to break up with me... i dont know what to do, shes had guys cheat on her in the past, and guys **** her over, and she has a realy hard time trusting people... maybe she's afraid to get too close? how can she tell me she loves me and i make her so happy, and then turn around say "only sometimes"? I dont want to give up on her thanks in advance
LaShawn0831 Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 "but tonite she told me that she isnt satisfied (not in bed, in life) and isnt happy... I know she is, because we laugh and have fun, and do things she never has before, and we trust each other ALOT, but she gets in these mood swings where she thinks everything is terrible... " Right there may be part of the problem as well. If she is saying she is not satisfied, you coming back saying "Yes you are". Is not the right response. I am gathering that she is also late teens/early 20s. This is a discovery phase of life and she may just be conflicted. If she is saying that she is not totally satisfied, BELIEVE HER. Instead of trying to get her to see how you feel, try to see how SHE feels. Ask her to me more specific about what she is unsatisfied about. LISTEN, more than you try to fix. Then see if there are things you can do to make her feel more secure WITHOUT smothering her. Be patient and let her take the lead. If you show her that you will be there no matter what, then maybe she will feel more secure within the relationship. good luck
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