Thought it was over, 2 weeks later she texts me

[lls7297]

A while ago I was dating this girl. We had been on 5 dates and everything seemed to be going well until after the 5th date, every time I called or texted her for another date she would say she was busy. Eventually I gave up and decided she wasnt interested and I had come off as desperate and she just couldn't outright say no.

 

It's been 7 weeks since our last date (5th one) and almost 3 weeks since I last texted her. This morning I woke up to a text from her "I owe you an apology".

 

I want to date her again, but I am quite busy, and assume she still is too. I am 21 and she is 18, going to different universities in the same area.

 

How should I proceed?

 

Thanks in advance.

[jefermelesyeux]

A while ago I was dating this girl. We had been on 5 dates and everything seemed to be going well until after the 5th date, every time I called or texted her for another date she would say she was busy. Eventually I gave up and decided she wasnt interested and I had come off as desperate and she just couldn't outright say no.

 

It's been 7 weeks since our last date (5th one) and almost 3 weeks since I last texted her. This morning I woke up to a text from her "I owe you an apology".

 

I want to date her again, but I am quite busy, and assume she still is too. I am 21 and she is 18, going to different universities in the same area.

 

How should I proceed?

 

Thanks in advance.

 

Just out of curiosity, did she say why/what she was apologizing for? The fact that she contacted you out of the blue to apologize is a good sign. I would be honest with her and tell her what you wrote, about how you do want to proceed but you're busy. I'm sure she'll understand. Good luck

[lls7297]

Just out of curiosity, did she say why/what she was apologizing for? The fact that she contacted you out of the blue to apologize is a good sign. I would be honest with her and tell her what you wrote, about how you do want to proceed but you're busy. I'm sure she'll understand. Good luck

 

I'm not 100% sure. I assume because she was practically ignoring me when I was trying to set up a date with her.

[OompaLoompa]

You said you are busy. And so is she. How are you guys going to fine sufficient time to build a relationship - it is a lot of time and effort.

And even if you want to proceed and start dating, do you know if SHE feels the same way?

[phineas]

I'd ignore her myself.

After that many dates the only reason for her to blow you off like that was another guy or she wasn't all that into you but misses your attention.

 

Don't be surprised if she asks to be just friends.

 

If you are the kind of guy who would do the same thing to a woman or are ok with being the back-up plan then respond.

[lls7297]

You said you are busy. And so is she. How are you guys going to fine sufficient time to build a relationship - it is a lot of time and effort.

And even if you want to proceed and start dating, do you know if SHE feels the same way?

 

 

Well that's what I want to know. Would she text me after 2 weeks of no contact to just to apologize for ignoring me?

 

I think there's a good chance its like what Phineas said and she just wants my attention. If that's true how do I turn that into another date?

 

And I'm not looking for a relationship, I just want another date to see how things go.

Edited November 9, 2012 by lls7297
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[jcrew11]

You are both young, and she probably didn't want to rush into anything. What are your goals, are you trying to get laid or have a steady girlfriend? She seems kinda flaky to be a steady girlfriend, but you might need to put in more time with her before she sleeps with you.

 

Odds are she was flirting with other guys at her college. Just call her back and find out what she wants. It doesn't hurt to leave some doors open, if in the future she calls you for a booty call when she's lonely.

 

Some girls just take more time to heat up, especially at the young age, if she's a virgin or inexperienced with dating.