7years Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 It's been almost a year since she left me.. my best friend that i've known form 8 years... problem is its just unfair.. or maybe it is... She was in love with me 4 years ago but i was just to blind.. didn't know.. but the 8th year we started going out... and everything was going great for a month.. She told me she didn't have the feeligns she used to have for me long time ago .. and she don't like me enough to be her boyfriend.. I miss her so much.. been almost a year and im still hurting.. is there anyway to get over her? or get her back? I'm so in love with this girl.. please help.. it hurts to much..
winter23 Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 I broke up with my good guy friend 2 weeks ago............I to was in love with him but he didnt feel the same. So after alosmt a year of treating him like gold and him treating me like ****, I ditched him...........plus he had recently gotten a gf. It hrut to much to be with him, he wasnt there for me or anything but I had the mindset that maybe he woul done day love me well he didnt.........so I did the hardest thing ever in my life and broke off our friednhsip............the first few days were so hard but I feel 10 times beter now...........he wasnt good for me, he was a real jerk. I had to get over the fact that he was an awful friend to me and he was just a jerk! He just wanted to use me for money and he liked the fact that I was worried about him and cared for him and stuff........our situations are different but we were both rejected by the one we "love". I dont feel love for my ex friedn anymore........I feel free. My advice is to do things you enjoy..........to ease the pain cause it wil hurt. I feel ok but prob becasue I know this guy was ajerk and I didnt know him as long as you knew this girl............hang in there! You should try to accept the fact as to what you said, most important be good to yourself, and dont let her have you waiting like this guy had me waiting.......occassionly he would act like he wantd more than friendship and stuff. Please..........realize that life is short.............be good to yourself, try to have fun.........and oh yeah, i was always waiting for this guy to cal me or something well, he wasnt waiting fo me. I doubt this girl is too..............dont sit around being depressed while your ex is out meeting new people and living! God luck and stya focused..........on the positive things.
Author 7years Posted August 4, 2004 Author Posted August 4, 2004 my situation is complicating.. even when we broke up we still talk to each other everyday since we're still best friends.. but don't feel that way anymore.. it feels like just friends.. and sometiems i feel like shes using me but.. she cares for me as a friend.. This is so hard.. I wish i could just not talk to her for few months and not see her.. but i don't wanna lose her as a friend either.. I can't eat.. Can't sleep.. Can't seem to do anything because shes on my mind and i keep reminiscing about what happend.. Ah... I wish i can just forget everything and start over.. like get memory loss or something.. Sorry for the grammer.. not good at writing ..
Author 7years Posted August 4, 2004 Author Posted August 4, 2004 How do i cope with this.. its been almost ayear since she left me.. but it hurts as if she just left me.. Is it because I talk to her everyday still?.. I wanna stop hurting and forget what happend and just go back to being friends.... Anyone have similar case? Some help would be great I'm hurting so much to the point life seems pointless and thought of suicide comes up.. Would taking prozac and such work?.. Please help.. I'm so depressed..
Blah Toolz Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Originally posted by 7years How do i cope with this.. its been almost ayear since she left me.. but it hurts as if she just left me.. Is it because I talk to her everyday still?.. I wanna stop hurting and forget what happend and just go back to being friends.... Anyone have similar case? Some help would be great I'm hurting so much to the point life seems pointless and thought of suicide comes up.. Would taking prozac and such work?.. Please help.. I'm so depressed.. Still talking to her everyday is exactly the reason you're still hurting the way you are. Clearly... by talking to her, it makes the process a whole hell of a lot more painful for you. It's been almost a year now, and you're still hurting like it's the day after the break-up. You need to cut her off, bro. Pain is God's way of telling you you're doing something wrong. That is a great saying that I've heard, and it's true. By talking to her, you're just getting false hopes, or you're realizing that things aren't going to be the same between you and her. You need to stop making contact with her altogether. This is the only way you're going to be able to feel better, and move on. She's not the same girl you knew. It will be tough, and painful at times... I've been through the pain you've had. I've felt very worthless... but when you feel better, you realize that it's not worth ruining your whole life over someone who feels like they can treat you like garbage. You were fine before you met her... now start doing some stuff for yourself, brotha.
Dork Posted August 6, 2004 Posted August 6, 2004 talking with someone everyday is a no-no for breakup and if you want to get back. why? there's no reason to get back together if you're offering the friend element.. in other words you become a FRIEND and no longer seen as something wanted. talk once every couple of days and keep the convo light.
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