sassypink74 Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 I have been dating someone for about 8-9 weeks. I recently posted about the amount of time we spend together. Things moved very slow at the start. Our amount of time together has drastically increased the last couple weeks. I am not complaining. My next question is, when, if and how do I bring up the subject of other women? I don't want to assume he is not dating anyone else, I don't think he is. I don't want to look highschoolish trying to "label" things or look clingy. But I do want to know where I stand. but don't want to mess up a great thing either. Please advise. THank you
River Rain Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 8-9 weeks in, things are getting serious. You want to know where you stand so just ask. There's nothing wrong with telling him you want to be exclusive. The whole label of "clingy" for being direct and asking for what you want is a little childish, no offense, but don't be thinking that way. You won't "ruin things" by asking, unless he's immature or doesn't want to have a serious relationship with you. Better to know sooner than later. 2
veggirl Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 Asking if he is seeing other people after 2 MONTHS is NOT clingy -- why would you think that it is? Esp if you are having sex with him. Anyway if asking at this point "messes things up" then he was never that into you to begin with. So I'd ask before you get more attached for no reason.
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 It's been two months! It is not clingy to want exclusivity, especially if sex is involved (and I'm assuming it is)! You definitely need to discuss this soon. Just tell him that you're not seeing anyone else and want to know if he's in the same boat.
jcrew11 Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 If you are seeing each other every weekend, and weekend plans are expected, then you're likely "in a relationship", especially if he isn't avoiding you or making time for any of his other female friends or male friends. If you are calling every day or every other day, that means things are serious. I would think after 4 consecutive weekends together, that would mean you or he isn't seeing other people. But there is no need to rush into it or label it, depending on your age, and what you want. If you want to get married to him someday, then its best to clarify that "he wants you and only you" and that he's not cheating on you now, since that could lead to more cheating later.
clia Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 Don't assume anything. Are you having sex with him? If not, wait for him to bring up exclusivity and continue to date others. If you are having sex, for your own safety you need to bring it up. However, don't be shocked if you get a negative response. Guys typically bring it up themselves when they are really into a girl because they are terrified some other guy might step in.
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