glassishalffull Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 He reached out today asking about my lack of responses. I know for him it was a bitter pill to swallow to ask me that. Do I respond and say I need to move on or do I just continue NC?
River Rain Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Very personal choice. Most will say NC because they know it brings you back to square one if you start to have more conversation or fight etc... Personally I'm more forgiving I guess, if my ex were to reach out to me, I would never have the heart to ignore him, but I would very calmly tell him he needs to stop contact to allow us both to heal, and if he kept it up after, then I'd ignore him.
Exit Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 Most questions like these boil down to "will taking two steps backwards help me move forward". Simple answer is no. But I don't know your story or specific situation.
Renard99 Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 Personally I'd respond and politely say that, from an emotional point of view, contact is difficult for you and, in order to heal after the turmoil of the break up, you respectfully ask that he no longer contacts you. I guess I'm like River in that i'm a little more forgiving in that I could never just ignore someone completely should they contact me. I feel that whilst it may mean taking an emotional step back now, it will pay off in the long run due to the peace of mind that there should be no further contact in the future (should he respect it). It will then give you a clear run of NC to concentrate on and heal. 4
Author glassishalffull Posted November 9, 2012 Author Posted November 9, 2012 Thank you all for the advice. I didn't feel that I could walk away and say nothing. I guess I was looking for the other side of the coin to see if my knee jerk reaction was the right one. I sent a very simple response and hopefully that will be the end. I was feeling guilty for the shut out but now feel a sense of relief.
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