itsmyfault Posted November 13, 2012 Posted November 13, 2012 (edited) I don't blaming you for slipping up, Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone feels emotions differently. And Really if you look at it no two break ups are ever really the same, Relationships may end for similar reasons, but the time before that will be different, as will feeling. So I thinks its unfair for anyone to judge you. As for myself, I was 3 weeks no contact, and I broke it. It was even me who was the dumper, Ive got stick for thinking shed have me back, but like i say everyone makes mistakes. I've started NC again, 4 days today. I had my first restless night last night, I'm sure i've a few more on the way, but they will pass. I'm trying to see it how other ppl have said, It's very easy to pretend you are happy, and making other people think you are happy makes the other person feel crappy. Keep strong. If you want someone to Vent to message me, We can vent to each other Edited November 13, 2012 by itsmyfault
Leigh 87 Posted November 14, 2012 Posted November 14, 2012 He does not want to be your friend. He does not care about you at all. He does not enjoy spending time with you enough to be your friend. He has shown that he cannot even stand being around you enough to go see a movie with you. This sounds HARSH; but it is true. This man is truly sick - the way he has sex with a women he really seams to dislike. .....He is so desperate and has no morals or feelings, that he HAS a girlfriend and still tries to sleep with a girl he dislikes (YOU) Friends care about their friends feelings, and as the other poster suggested, they do not have to SAY " hey lets be friends". They just ARE. This man is not capable of having true feelings. Not that he even likes you on any level, within his capacity TO be able to like.
Author mishy Posted November 15, 2012 Author Posted November 15, 2012 he does not want to be your friend. He does not care about you at all. He does not enjoy spending time with you enough to be your friend. He has shown that he cannot even stand being around you enough to go see a movie with you. This sounds harsh; but it is true. This man is truly sick - the way he has sex with a women he really seams to dislike. .....he is so desperate and has no morals or feelings, that he has a girlfriend and still tries to sleep with a girl he dislikes (you) friends care about their friends feelings, and as the other poster suggested, they do not have to say " hey lets be friends". They just are. This man is not capable of having true feelings. Not that he even likes you on any level, within his capacity to be able to like. thanks...............
Author mishy Posted November 17, 2012 Author Posted November 17, 2012 He does not want to be your friend. He does not care about you at all. He does not enjoy spending time with you enough to be your friend. He has shown that he cannot even stand being around you enough to go see a movie with you. This sounds HARSH; but it is true. This man is truly sick - the way he has sex with a women he really seams to dislike. .....He is so desperate and has no morals or feelings, that he HAS a girlfriend and still tries to sleep with a girl he dislikes (YOU) Friends care about their friends feelings, and as the other poster suggested, they do not have to SAY " hey lets be friends". They just ARE. This man is not capable of having true feelings. Not that he even likes you on any level, within his capacity TO be able to like. who else agrees with this?
Simon Phoenix Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 who else agrees with this? A better question is who disagrees with it. Because I don't think you are going to find many people that disagree with the bolded.
cavalier99 Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 (edited) I dont mean to sound harsh...well yes i do. If you cant truly stay NC then I vote that you sleep with him as much as possible this month till you hit rock rock bottom and feel totally and completely used even worse than now. Then come back after a month of NC and report. Good luck staying NC but if you don't do something different this time your going to get the same result. How many times has this happened. It sounds like a LOT from what ive read in a few of your threads and comments from some of the veterans around here. You dont need any more sympathy or even to post on LS you need to take action. Move a 1000 miles away, or avoid any and all situations that have caused you to relapse before. Have you deleted and blocked his number and email. Does he have a key to your place? Did u change the lock? What are you doing to stop this. Do you pray for strength daily. How did this last relapse happen? Did u initiate it? What is different about this time? You should consider a 12 step group to stop this cycle. I truly wish you the best mishy in spite of the harsh tone. Edited November 17, 2012 by cavalier99
cavalier99 Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 I just saw that the relapse was a week ago. I thought it was new slip up. Keep up the NC!
Author mishy Posted November 17, 2012 Author Posted November 17, 2012 I just saw that the relapse was a week ago. I thought it was new slip up. Keep up the NC! No there hasn't been a slip up, i just was posting here. havent had contact
Million.to.1 Posted November 19, 2012 Posted November 19, 2012 Is that piece of paper still up in your bathroom that says "He deserves no more of my energy" ??
Author mishy Posted November 19, 2012 Author Posted November 19, 2012 i had to take it down because there are too many tradesmen here, too weird to have people see it
Leigh 87 Posted November 21, 2012 Posted November 21, 2012 Oh Mishy, I did not intend to upset you! The truth hurts. Look, the guy is unfeeling and unkind. I would say that he does not feel much at all, even FOR his friends. A nice and caring guy does not act the way he does! That is, a guy with half a brain and a shred of social intelligence would KNOW if a girl was into him, and his morals would dictate that he would leave her ALONE, rather than torture her. So... If he is actually nice and caring to other people and really seams to like other people and care about them, he is really stupid and assumes you are cool, when really, you cry in bed when he leaves you after sex. Your NOT in love with him; your just attached to him through the sex. Sex brings out emotions in women, it's just science. To break your grasp on him, you need to just stop seeing him. How is NC going?
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