Mike6466 Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Right now me and this taurus woman are having a no contact which I initiated it. I stopped all contact with her to try and get her to miss me.. I'm a libra male and I need to find out what I can do to win her back. Is this no contact thing gonna work with her? If its not how should I win her back? I'd like to get other female taurus opinions also. What should I do to win her back. Background is we dated for 3 three months. She got scared and wanted to be friends but w still kissed and stuff and told me she wants to get to know me more(taurus act). I've been lost and confused and wanted more than friends and she gives signals that she wants more but tells me right now isn't good. She won't give me a straight answer but I can tell he really likes me and she has told me that before. I ended diong a no contact with her last Sunday and it hasn't even been a week but I'm worried that I'm doing it all wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 I think what you're gonna hear from 99% of people here is that you're doing NC for the wrong reason. You do no contact to move on not to make someone miss you. I'm a female taurus coincidentally. For me, only time and space and not being pushy helps. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike6466 Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 I think what you're gonna hear from 99% of people here is that you're doing NC for the wrong reason. You do no contact to move on not to make someone miss you. I'm a female taurus coincidentally. For me, only time and space and not being pushy helps. So what should I do? Do I contact her and say what? She tell me she wanted space to figure her stuff out but still kept me around as a friend but still was crazy affectionate. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Right now me and this taurus woman are having a no contact which I initiated it. I stopped all contact with her to try and get her to miss me.. I'm a libra male and I need to find out what I can do to win her back. Is this no contact thing gonna work with her? If its not how should I win her back? I'd like to get other female taurus opinions also. What should I do to win her back. Background is we dated for 3 three months. She got scared and wanted to be friends but w still kissed and stuff and told me she wants to get to know me more(taurus act). I've been lost and confused and wanted more than friends and she gives signals that she wants more but tells me right now isn't good. She won't give me a straight answer but I can tell he really likes me and she has told me that before. I ended diong a no contact with her last Sunday and it hasn't even been a week but I'm worried that I'm doing it all wrong. playing games with any woman is risky star signs have nothing to do with it when i want to move on i go nc most women i believe see no contact as way to deal with their feelings if she needed space and is still crazy affectionate she needed time not nc...dont play games just be honest with how you feel and be light in the messages you do send her. i have feelings for a guy and he doesnt feel the same way.....i would like to kid myself that i can just be his friend but i havent dealt with this before.....i stilll have feelings for him but eventually i know that i cant hold onto these feelings and still be his friend and if these feelings for him dont go away, ill have no choice but to go no contact this is not to play games however, because, eventually unless i go nc i am going to get hurt and hurt quite badly..even though seeing him happy with someone else would be wonderful it would have sadness attached to it.... ..nc is not a game....its heartbreaking when you care for someone and its a process used to heal and to move on from someone thats how i use no contact.......deb Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike6466 Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 playing games with any woman is risky star signs have nothing to do with it when i want to move on i go nc most women i believe see no contact as way to deal with their feelings if she needed space and is still crazy affectionate she needed time not nc...dont play games just be honest with how you feel and be light in the messages you do send her. i have feelings for a guy and he doesnt feel the same way.....i would like to kid myself that i can just be his friend but i havent dealt with this before.....i stilll have feelings for him but eventually i know that i cant hold onto these feelings and still be his friend and if these feelings for him dont go away, ill have no choice but to go no contact this is not to play games however, because, eventually unless i go nc i am going to get hurt and hurt quite badly..even though seeing him happy with someone else would be wonderful it would have sadness attached to it.... ..nc is not a game....its heartbreaking when you care for someone and its a process used to heal and to move on from someone thats how i use no contact.......deb So how do I go about contacting her again and trying to figure this out? I know I'm gonna look like a idiot if I contact her again after I told her to call me once se figures her stuff out. Should I just message her or show up at her house or what? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike6466 Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 Have you had someone do a no contact with you? How did you deal with it? I'm trying to see if she is doing what I'm doing like figuring out if she should contact me. I need to know what she could possibly be feeling giving the background and her being a taurus and me giving her a no contact. Btw I haven't heard from her but she did talk to one if my good girl friends and made it clear I was in her mind. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 Have you had someone do a no contact with you? How did you deal with it? I'm trying to see if she is doing what I'm doing like figuring out if she should contact me. I need to know what she could possibly be feeling giving the background and her being a taurus and me giving her a no contact. Btw I haven't heard from her but she did talk to one if my good girl friends and made it clear I was in her mind. Ok being a particular star sign doesn't make a difference really they are broad generalisations that the description fits just about every one including males......they are fun to read......thats about it...dont take stock in star signs.I have not had anyone do a nc on me that was interested in me I have been negged though...i didnt date those guys.....i dont like games......the reason why games are not good is because people playing them wonder if the other person is doing the same thing.complications and miscommunications arise with people not admitting how they really feel or what they really want.....someone gets hurt...normally a nice guy who should just be honest.....i could play with players if i was in bad head space ......i know games, i don't like them though......your friend has made it clear she likes you so why not be honest what is it you are trying to achieve? I am going to roll my eyes at you if you mention taurus girl one more time....you can tell me honestly what you really want i dont know your girl you like, so tell me what is it you really want then i might be able to help...leave taurus out of it or i will kick your butt..lets get back to earth and not the stars........deb Link to post Share on other sites
NavyAirTraffic Posted November 8, 2012 Share Posted November 8, 2012 what I can do to win her back NOTHING! She had you as a BF and she decided to leave, what makes you think anything you do will win her back? All you can do is honor her wishes, she wants to break up then just disappear. Maybe someday she'll realize she wants you back, maybe she won't. It is simply out of your hands right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike6466 Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 Well she holds in her emotions. We dated and it was great then she said she needed to find herself and brought back to a friend level and lets see where it goes kinda thing. Did that for a while but as I would go with the flow like she wanted she would back off or turn away from a kiss. She basically told me she doesn't want to hurt me and tells me she knows herself to well that she might back out of something serious. I want to be with her. Everything me and her have is amazing!! Just the not talking to me how she feels or as showing emotion, she just acts like she doesn't care. So I did a nc to take a step back and look at it and let her miss me a little and maybe see that I'm a good person. But after this forum I guess that wasn't the way to do it. I HATE GAMES TOO! But it's come to the point where I'm lost and don't know what to do. When we first started the friend thing she said she wanted to take things slow and get to know me better. Then it turned into her telling me can't be in a serious relationship but still being flirty and touchy feely. No sex. But occasions we would kiss. Sometimes she would let me and she kiss me back ad days she wouldn't even hug me. Hot and cold. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike6466 Posted November 8, 2012 Author Share Posted November 8, 2012 She told me that she struggles with the feelings she has for me everyday but I don't know what to do to help her or help us. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 I dont think people should get into a relationship until they know for sure it isn't going backwards only forwards.so no to lets take it back to friends so i can find myself......either you are together or you arent its so simple that way no confusion or what ifs or whys....you are friends you date....you start a relationship and then you keep moving forward even if you were unsure of who you are you should be sure of a relationship you started you should know the reasons why you are with that person....personal issues can be dealt with in a relationship...... baggage is common at the start of a relationship if there are failed relationships before, when you do start another relationship you should know you can handle your own baggage(you should realize what you are looking for and that the person has what you are looking for in a relationship) then, it doesnt affect a new unique relationship it starts with understanding that everything should move forward to a fresh future and acceptance that you can work out issues together.....using i need to find myself in a relationship to get out of one doesnt make sense to me......deb Link to post Share on other sites
TheKnightWillRise Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 Mike, Firstly, please oh please stop harping on about her being a ''taurus woman.'' I'm a Capricorn man and don't fit into any of the specific traits. It's a fantasy system which makes delusional people, even more delusional. Or, just a bit of fun, not to be taken seriously. But if it's really that close to your heart, remember that you're a libra male. So start acting like a lion, the King of the Jungle. Secondly, NC is best because you need time to move on. Not to try to lure her back. Thirdly, it was only a three month relationship. That is not to say that you didn't share feelings, strong feelings even, but she's not the one. That much is clear. Now don't make me throw a deck of tarot cards at you and start doing some fun activities on your own/with friends Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike6466 Posted November 9, 2012 Author Share Posted November 9, 2012 Haha thanks guys. So last night I went out with some friends to a local bar ad guess who was there? You bet! She was there. And my girl friend posted that she was going with me to this local bar and she commented on and got my girl friends number and said ill see you there. So me and buddy get there first and are sitting in the back patio and she comes and stood right next me back to back lol. My girl friend came in and amber went over to her and said hi and started asking about me, " mike stormed out of my house Sunday and I haven't talked to him". Everywhere me and my friends would go, se had to be right there. I went inside to dance she would be there. My roommates girlfriend was there too and she knows my situation so she wraps around my arm and comes back outside with me and my ex was starring like crazy and stuff. Towards the end of the night me and some friends decided to separate us from everyone else at the bar and went and sat down on the back corner where no one was. My ex sat down three tables down from us. I'm just kinda like, if your gonna try and be friends with my friends and have to be close to all of us, but can't even have the balls to say anything to me. It's just I'm sick of these kinda girls that have emotional pr Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mike6466 Posted November 9, 2012 Author Share Posted November 9, 2012 Haha thanks guys. So last night I went out with some friends to a local bar ad guess who was there? You bet! She was there. And my girl friend posted that she was going with me to this local bar and she commented on and got my girl friends number and said ill see you there. So me and buddy get there first and are sitting in the back patio and she comes and stood right next me back to back lol. My girl friend came in and amber went over to her and said hi and started asking about me, " mike stormed out of my house Sunday and I haven't talked to him". Everywhere me and my friends would go, se had to be right there. I went inside to dance she would be there. My roommates girlfriend was there too and she knows my situation so she wraps around my arm and comes back outside with me and my ex was starring like crazy and stuff. Towards the end of the night me and some friends decided to separate us from everyone else at the bar and went and sat down on the back corner where no one was. My ex sat down three tables down from us. My ex was texting my girl friend while we where sitting down three tables from here. Sounds like she is trying to get y attention. I know I need to do what u guys are saying but it's so hard. I'm just kinda like, if your gonna try and be friends with my friends and have to be close to all of us, but can't even have the balls to say anything to me. It's just I'm sick of these kinda girls that have emotional problems or commitment issues. Last three girls were like this. Just sucks Link to post Share on other sites
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