E-mailed her; no response. It feels so dark.

[veggirl]

this is the girl that got the cops involved because you were harrassing her so much right?

 

you need to be careful dude.

 

have you considered umm therapy? look we all get that it is hard to move on and we get the desire to push for contact but seriously...you are extreme. you don't even TRY to "get better". it's kinda hopeless at this point. maybe you should keep contacting her, maybe the cops showing up at your door will be what finally wakes you up.

[frederickkk]

this is the girl that got the cops involved because you were harrassing her so much right?

 

you need to be careful dude.

 

have you considered umm therapy? look we all get that it is hard to move on and we get the desire to push for contact but seriously...you are extreme. you don't even TRY to "get better". it's kinda hopeless at this point. maybe you should keep contacting her, maybe the cops showing up at your door will be what finally wakes you up.

 

im careful. im pushing for contact because i fell asleep at the wheel. now ive got a ****ing jungle to navigate.

[Eve]

Reminds me off my ex.

 

My brothers had to threaten a beating on him in the end before he left me alone..

 

Get some therapy OP.

 

Take care,

Eve x

[frederickkk]

Reminds me off my ex.

 

My brothers had to threaten a beating on him in the end before he left me alone..

 

Get some therapy OP.

 

Take care,

Eve x

 

Why did you leave him?

[Sav]

Here's an idea.

 

1) Call her and say whatever you want to say to her

 

2) Get hung up on and ignored, then send her some looooong email about how sad you are and ***** like that

 

3) Don't get a reply and still don't get it, do 1 again

 

4) Rinse, repeat till you get a restraining order against you

 

5) Welcome back to LS

[geegirl]

Here's an idea.

 

1) Call her and say whatever you want to say to her

 

2) Get hung up on and ignored, then send her some looooong email about how sad you are and ***** like that

 

3) Don't get a reply and still don't get it, do 1 again

 

4) Rinse, repeat till you get a restraining order against you

 

5) Welcome back to LS

 

He can't call her. She changed her number recently and never informed him. Still not enough of a reason to get a clue.

[Sav]

He can't call her. She changed her number recently and never informed him. Still not enough of a reason to get a clue.

 

Well, you do get what I'm trying to say right . It really saddens me to see how thick some people can get. I do understand the heartbreak and all but to throw every shred of rational thought and dignity out of the window for someone who walked all over you? That I can never understand.

 

When I broke up I was a wreck, but I wasn't delusional. It was pretty clear when she broke it off with me, I don't need closure, I don't need answers because the break up itself is closure and answer enough

[Eve]

Why did you leave him?

 

He became obsessed with me.

 

Take care,

Eve x

[Sav]

Don't mean to sound harsh but..

 

1) Delusional

2) Irrational

3) Stubborn (refuses to listen to others)

4) Always think you're right

5) Thinking everybody owes you something

 

Makes me wonder why she broke up with you :\. It takes a breakup to "wake" people up. If this is your "woken" up state, I wonder how did you treat her in the relationship.

 

Maybe she is in the wrong, we will never know for sure because we will only hear your side of the story, but don't you think it's time to change how you are first? If you're turning off even strangers (which I'm sure you are doing it right now), what's more to say people who are near you?

 

Change yourself and maybe someone will come along into your life again. Continue down this path and I won't be surprised to see you in jail someday. You're acting like a fanatic for god sake...wake up

[geegirl]

Well, you do get what I'm trying to say right .

 

Of course, I did! Just had to note that there is nothing that can stop him.

 

Sav, where in Singapore?

[frederickkk]

end of the day, she doesn't know what she wants. doesn't want a relationship.

 

that's enough.

 

i can't do anymore.

 

i've tried. very ****ing hard.

 

i have been walked over. and its ****ed me right off.

 

i'd rather be single than have my heart ripped out again.

[veggirl]

your emails probably go straight to her trash / spam. I would imagine if she went as far as changing her # / alerting the cops, she blocked your email. So just...try to stop? Goodness. Do you have friends / family that know you are behaving this way? and are you really 25? I feel bad, I was going to guess 19 or so?

[frederickkk]

i am having trouble letting her go, and i don't think she fully realises what she has done.

[PYTpisces]

i am having trouble letting her go, and i don't think she fully realises what she has done.

 

 

Have you read any of the previous poster's posts on here? You're having difficulty letting go becuase essentially you've invested ALL of yourself, which one should never do in a relationship anyway. Now that she's gone, it feels like a negative investment. We've all been there. In your case, because you kept pushinggggg for so long youve made everything worse for yourself.... Hate to tell you, she didn't do ANYTHING wrong. It is not a crime to end a relationship. If she treated you poorly, then she did the right thing by leaving.. She is responsible for her life and her actions as are you. You're obsessing over something that is so far out of your control.

[frederickkk]

yep, i invested my all.

 

i will never become so emotionally invested in someone again. in fact, i will prob remain single.

 

this girl is irreplaceable.

[Sav]

Of course, I did! Just had to note that there is nothing that can stop him.

 

Sav, where in Singapore?

 

Where in Singapore? We're just one small island, there's no cities or anything, just one place for everyone XD

[PYTpisces]

yep, i invested my all.

 

i will never become so emotionally invested in someone again. in fact, i will prob remain single.

 

this girl is irreplaceable.

 

 

You're in a very unhealthy state of mind. If you wish to stay this way then you're doing the world a favor by staying single. If you wish to become a healthier person please seek professional help ASAP

[geegirl]

Where in Singapore? We're just one small island, there's no cities or anything, just one place for everyone XD

 

I know...I'm from Malaysia but live in the US and have family and friends in Singapore

[frederickkk]

geegirl, you are brutally honest. wish i could just listen to you with both ears, not in 1, out the other.

[suladas]

Like others said, the why's don't matter (you're not alone I struggled a LOT with it to, and still somewhat do) but you have to realize the why's will not change anything. Like you I wanted to know if she was with someone else, guess what I got my answer I seen her with a new guy and it felt like getting my heart stomped on again, you think you want to know but you don't. The ONLY thing to do if delete her from your life and move on. You have to realize, contacting her is of ZERO value.

[spaniard]

Ok, I'll be harsh on you, because you are bloody annoying. As most people here are ladies, let me talk to you as a man.

 

First FACT: you LOST your ex girlfriend FOREVER. You should realize and accept this FACT. She DOES NOT WANT YOU ANYMORE. And you will NEVER GET TOGETHER AGAIN.

 

Second: you are not a man anymore. You have lost your dignity, you are being pathetic. You know, brother, I have lost the love of my life. She dumped me, and you know what her reason was? "MY FEELINGS ARE JUST GONE".

 

IT WAS OVER AND I WAS NEVER GIVEN ANY REASONS.

 

I had (and still have) MILLIONS of questions.

 

I'm still in love with her, and currently I don't know if I will find anyone like her.

 

But you know there is one thing I have learnt in life:

 

YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO respect yourself; NEVER give up your dignity. No woman is worth destroying your self-regard. Because women RECOGNIZE THIS. They recognize in an instant when you stop being a man, and boy, you have NO CHANCE after that.

 

You have destroyed your self-regard, you have given up your dignity. You are not a man in my eyes, not a man in your ex-girfriend's eyes, and you know I'm pretty sure you are not a man in your own eyes.

 

You are a 15 year old immature girl, who can't face the FACTS, who can't even believe that others MIGHT BE RIGHT, because you are living a dream world. That girl did the right thing when she broke up with you.

 

Dammit, there are people here on this forum struggling hard, going through their darkest days, but they ****ing LISTEN TO OTHERS, they try to heal actively ALTHOUGH they all feel they have lost the love of their lives. You? You don't listen to anyone here, you keep posting the most pathetic things and you don't give a damn about what others say to you.

 

You deserve suffering until you realize that you are pathetic and finally try to man up.

 

Oh, and face the fact that if a girl says she doesn't want a relationship, it means that it doesn't want a relationship WITH YOU but she would love to date anyone else.

[Renard99]

Frederickk, I think I've said this to you before, and I know others have too, and you simply don't take the advice..... but..... you have to want to move on, get better, start a new life and leave her alone.

 

And before you say anything, like last time, I know it's not as easy as saying 'I won't think of her' and all of a sudden you're better but you have to start to try. I sent my ex a few emails after we broke up but after each one that got no response I said to myself 'I will not contact her again'. Ok, so I did, but eventually all I could think about when I started to write the email was me saying 'I will not contact her' and eventually my head won out over my heart. It was a very long and hard struggle but my head ('don't contact her') eventually won over my heart ('contact her').

 

At the moment your heart is winning, I understand that, it happened to me, but rather than fight back like the rest of us, your head has simply gone on vacation. A perfect example is when you say she's irreplacebale and there's no one else like her in the world...... what's it like to meet all 7 billion people in the world? Must have taken you a while? The phrase 'there's plenty more fish in the sea' didn't spring up out of nowhere but your head is nowhere to be found in order to tell your heart that.

 

Your heart is winning mate and you're simply letting it get on with it.

 

Please, get therapy. It's taken over you and, if it hasn't already, will start to affect all aspects of your life, not just relationships. You won't listen to us... maybe it's time to give another avenue a try?

[Renard99]

Ok, I'll be harsh on you, because you are bloody annoying. As most people here are ladies, let me talk to you as a man.

 

First FACT: you LOST your ex girlfriend FOREVER. You should realize and accept this FACT. She DOES NOT WANT YOU ANYMORE. And you will NEVER GET TOGETHER AGAIN.

 

Second: you are not a man anymore. You have lost your dignity, you are being pathetic. You know, brother, I have lost the love of my life. She dumped me, and you know what her reason was? "MY FEELINGS ARE JUST GONE".

 

IT WAS OVER AND I WAS NEVER GIVEN ANY REASONS.

 

I had (and still have) MILLIONS of questions.

 

I'm still in love with her, and currently I don't know if I will find anyone like her.

 

But you know there is one thing I have learnt in life:

 

YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO respect yourself; NEVER give up your dignity. No woman is worth destroying your self-regard. Because women RECOGNIZE THIS. They recognize in an instant when you stop being a man, and boy, you have NO CHANCE after that.

 

You have destroyed your self-regard, you have given up your dignity. You are not a man in my eyes, not a man in your ex-girfriend's eyes, and you know I'm pretty sure you are not a man in your own eyes.

 

You are a 15 year old immature girl, who can't face the FACTS, who can't even believe that others MIGHT BE RIGHT, because you are living a dream world. That girl did the right thing when she broke up with you.

 

Dammit, there are people here on this forum struggling hard, going through their darkest days, but they ****ing LISTEN TO OTHERS, they try to heal actively ALTHOUGH they all feel they have lost the love of their lives. You? You don't listen to anyone here, you keep posting the most pathetic things and you don't give a damn about what others say to you.

 

You deserve suffering until you realize that you are pathetic and finally try to man up.

 

Oh, and face the fact that if a girl says she doesn't want a relationship, it means that it doesn't want a relationship WITH YOU but she would love to date anyone else.

 

Harsh..... but very, very true

[geegirl]

geegirl, you are brutally honest. wish i could just listen to you with both ears, not in 1, out the other.

 

It's something you have to want for yourself. We can talk ourselves blue but if your head is wired in such a way where you can't find your reality, then no one can help you.

 

I will tell you, as a woman, nothing is more unattractive than a man behaving this way. You've definitely shut the door on yourself with your actions. As Spaniard mentioned, women are repelled and lose respect when a man chases and acts obsessive ESPECIALLY when she tells him it is over. You've done yourself a great injustice.

 

She's had to call the cops on you and even changed her number but you insist. When does the obsession stop? Only you can decide that.

[Eve]

I don't know, I think sometimes there is actually something wrong with stalker types, like they are simply wired like that.

 

My ex was fine to a point then just went off into the deep end and no one could get through to him. Partly I would put it down to him having friends who were idiots (he was playing up to them) and the other part is that he knew he had messed things up and thought his only chance was to scare me into going back to him.

 

.. As if that would have worked.

 

Psycho is psycho. That's what I learned.

 

He is still the same now having had one brief relationship since I left him.

 

TBH, I think it was for the best that he stayed on his own - but if you talk to him about it he actually sees it as some kind of pledge of love or something definitely psycho related like that. Objectively, I think the original plan was that I was supposed to find his behaviour attractive (.. somehow) and go back to him.

 

Take care,

Eve x