frederickkk Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 So I emailed her. Three days ago. Don't wish for a response. Each day just gets worse. Silence. In the dark. Absolutely ****ing livid.
Author frederickkk Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 I'm not going to get it, because there is no valid reason for this break up. If there is somebody else, she should ****ing tell me so i can throw everything out she gave me.
geegirl Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 I'm not going to get it, because there is no valid reason for this break up. If there is somebody else, she should ****ing tell me so i can throw everything out she gave me. There is no valid reason for YOU. SHE HAS A VALID REASON. Whether you like it or not does not matter. Whether you agree of not does not matter. She is ENTITLED to end a relationship she DOES NOT want to be involved in anymore. Sucks but you just have to accept and deal with it, just as WE all have done. She does not have to give you a reason if she does not want to. All you need to know is that she does not want to be with you anymore. Box it all up and dump it, regardless of why she left. The fact remains. She left.
PYTpisces Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Yeah:/ as rough as it is, most of us on here are on here for the sime fact that there is no logic as to why some relationships end. So we have to cope with the confusion and loss with what we're given. You've been sent reeling because of your loss now it's time to do what is necessary to break free from the bondage of the pain it's caused. That's why we all engage in NC. The ties need to be cut in order to heal. There's no other way
Author frederickkk Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 i will never meet a girl as amazing as her.
geegirl Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 i will never meet a girl as amazing as her. It's fine to believe you will never find an amazing girl that manipulated and disrespected you. Fine. You're emotionally clouded. In time, if you give yourself the chance to grieve and feel the pain, you'll at some point get to a place where your brain will take over your heart and you'll see things differently. But for now, if you believe this is the end, then so be it. But at least refrain from breaking NC. 2
PYTpisces Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 i will never meet a girl as amazing as her. You sure wont if you set your mind to it. And I bet you will if you set your mind to it. You've put her up on a pedestal that she probably doesn't even deserve to be on
Author frederickkk Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 its my birthday in 9 days. i wonder if she will email me? if i email her after not hearing from her, she will see it as a reaction. i have another here, i want to hit send. she is 100 miles away, i could jump on a train tomorrow and go see her, but then labelled as stalker. ridiculous. just want to know why. there is no why. and it drives me up the ****ing wall.
PYTpisces Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Does it matter if she says happy birthday or not?? You guys won't hop into a happy healthy relationship. It sounds like you're addicted and you just need to feel the high from the breadcrumbs she might toss you. Key word is might bcuz it seems like she's moving on. The longer you feed into this fiend the more agony you will feel
geegirl Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 its my birthday in 9 days. i wonder if she will email me? if i email her after not hearing from her, she will see it as a reaction. i have another here, i want to hit send. she is 100 miles away, i could jump on a train tomorrow and go see her, but then labelled as stalker. ridiculous. just want to know why. there is no why. and it drives me up the ****ing wall. There is no why. We don't get reasons and sometimes when we do, they're not even true. So it does not matter. Your ego is taking a severe beating and you just can't help but feel devalued. This is why you cannot let go. It's not love. It's your ego. It's been deflated. I'm so wonderful so why doesn't this girl want me. I have to know. Accept that not everyone is going to love or like us back. I'm sorry but there is nothing that she can tell you that will take away any of it or change the situation. Her silence is your answer.
Author frederickkk Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 well i look forward to spending plenty of time on this forum, because I will not be moving on from this. its the only driving force making me cycle 14 miles a day to a gym and back.
PYTpisces Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 You will move on though it just feels like you won right now. And yes it may take a long time... It may not. Life has a funny way of twisting and turning for better and for worse all the time. I'm glad you'll be messaging here with us instead of her.
Author frederickkk Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 i am very close to hitting send on this email.
PYTpisces Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 i am very close to hitting send on this email. DON'T DO IT let us talk you off this ledge!!! You will regret it
geegirl Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 well i look forward to spending plenty of time on this forum, because I will not be moving on from this. its the only driving force making me cycle 14 miles a day to a gym and back. Well, I'm sorry your life has ended at 25. Hopefully in time your mindset will change after investing some time in healing and moving on from this. 1
geegirl Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 i am very close to hitting send on this email. Don't do it. If she has not responded to your email three days ago, this won't change. Remember how her friends were laughing at you. I wonder if she is sharing your emails and all having a good laugh at you. Think about it. Remind yourself of how humiliated you felt. I can only imagine her snickering with her friends.
PYTpisces Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Yeah... hounding someone just makes them disrespect you more and more. Why does she deserve this worship from you? re-evaluate what you find worthy in a woman and give your praise to someone who deserves it and wants to make you happy to. I think you might be far from living a reallity like this so take @geegirl's advice and heal also try to grow from this.....
Author frederickkk Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 she can do what she wants. show who she wants.
geegirl Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 "i wont email her. but i probably wont ever contact her ever again. and thats that. that day i got rejected at coffee, i had some kid pick up the phone laughing at me. it says it all really." Your words on your thread, posted October 29. Please hold on to your self-respect.
PYTpisces Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 she can do what she wants. show who she wants. sooo then whats the point of sending the email?
geegirl Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 she can do what she wants. show who she wants. Then email her. Please send her as many emails as you want. Don't waste your time with these statements and then ponder on doing it if you don't care. Send it.
Author frederickkk Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 over the jokes, the laughing.
geegirl Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 over the jokes, the laughing. Then send the email.
PYTpisces Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 over the jokes, the laughing. Seriously, what are you trying to accomplish by sending the email? Aside from throwing your self respect into an endless pit, what are you expecting? you can't possibly expect a good turnout from this point can you?
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