Interesting comment on how Womens attraction towards Men works..agree or disagree?

[PJKino]

Women are not actually attracted to men. There is a vague idea of what a man is physically, and some are better than others aesthetically speaking, but the purely physical appearance of a man is almost inconsequential unless he is horribly ugly or outrageously attractive.

 

Women are attracted to status, money, how much a man smiles and laughs, how many friends and resources a man has, how full a man's life is--how many "cool," "exciting" and prestigious things he is doing or connected to.

 

They are interested in how other people view him--how many people want to be around him, how other people interact with him and whether their interactions convey that he is special and amazing. They want him to be extremely outgoing and aggressive, they want him to demonstrate his status over other people by dominating them in various non-violent ways.

 

A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself.

Edited November 8, 2012 by PJKino

[serial muse]

Women are not actually attracted to men. There is a vague idea of what a man is physically, and some are better than others aesthetically speaking, but the purely physical appearance of a man is almost inconsequential unless he is horribly ugly or outrageously attractive.

 

Women are attracted to status, money, how much a man smiles and laughs, how many friends and resources a man has, how full a man's life is--how many "cool," "exciting" and prestigious things he is doing or connected to.

 

They are interested in how other people view him--how many people want to be around him, how other people interact with him and whether their interactions convey that he is special and amazing. They want him to be extremely outgoing and aggressive, they want him to demonstrate his status over other people by dominating them in various non-violent ways.

 

A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself.

 

I don't know about this. Sometimes I just flat-out admire my guy's physical attributes. What can I say.

[FitChick]

And men just like boobs.

[SteveC80]

As a guy whos skated by on his looks in his younger years this is patently false.

 

The majority of a womens life is vanity whter its judging her own looks other women or other men.

 

If you are a good looking ddue you have a huge leg up,believe me women are controlled by their hormones sometimes even more then guys it was just taboo in the past for them to show it and only a few percent of men can bring out that type of lust inside them

 

Now that its slightly less of a taboo you see how women act around men they are extremely physcially attracted to and its kind of creepy to be honest

[ThaWholigan]

This is basically an extreme version of the Pre-selection theory, one which is exaggerated beyond all possible rationalization.

 

Basically the man with social status, financial security, resources, goals and all that stuff will be more attractive on a cerebral level sure. Whatever happens after that point however goes beyond that and probably won't last unless she is sufficiently attracted to the man himself.

 

And women most certainly are attracted to men physically. But each girl has their own subset of men they are physically attracted to.

[serial muse]

its kind of creepy to be honest

 

you win the internet today

[Spreeley713]

For me, physical attraction is important. I can appreciate a cute face. Then comes the observation of how you interact with people. If you're not creepy, don't come off as an *******/man whore, and you smile/laugh a lot, then you're considered approachable and I'll try to engage you in a few conversations to see if you're dating material. I could care less about status or money.

[PhillyDude]

Women are not actually attracted to men. There is a vague idea of what a man is physically, and some are better than others aesthetically speaking, but the purely physical appearance of a man is almost inconsequential unless he is horribly ugly or outrageously attractive.

 

Women are attracted to status, money, how much a man smiles and laughs, how many friends and resources a man has, how full a man's life is--how many "cool," "exciting" and prestigious things he is doing or connected to.

 

They are interested in how other people view him--how many people want to be around him, how other people interact with him and whether their interactions convey that he is special and amazing. They want him to be extremely outgoing and aggressive, they want him to demonstrate his status over other people by dominating them in various non-violent ways.

 

A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself.

 

 

 

This post right here is why I always preferred the "Fetish Lifestyle" over dating.

[kiss_andmakeup]

Uhhh...no. I could not agree less.

[River Rain]

I'm attracted to physical appearance, when I picture the man I'm getting to know now, I get a physical reaction. I'm more attracted to how a man acts with me when he's alone with me, his conversations skills, humour and how trusting and vulnerable he can be with me. I don't care what others think of him, or his "status". I don't care about his job, though he has to be able to support himself, as I support myself.

[SteveC80]

Yes i tell guys this all the time work on your physical because the lust part is a huge part of getting your foot in the door and a relationship in general

 

Yes ive seen blah and average looking guys get women off being sweet and charming and then when tha twears off and their women cant be physcial with the guy anymore they come to guys like me to cheat

[AD1980]

this is just pathetic lol..tons of women are sheep my god

 

Edited November 8, 2012 by AD1980

[serial muse]

never mind

[mysteryscape]

Women have different tastes in physical appearance. Athletic women tend to like athletic men. A female concert pianist is probably not going to go for the jock, she will go for a male musician or other artistically or intellectually inclined type, and his build won't matter so much. But his overall "look" may. But what defines that look can be very hard to say. Most women actually prefer men who are "fit" looking to men who are highly athletic looking when it comes to romantic/sexual partners. The cheerleader who goes with the football player does not disprove this.

 

In general my experience is that women are just not nearly as visually driven as men, and a lot of women have confirmed this for me, even ones who are highly sex driven.

 

I've noticed that a female walking down the street with a lot flesh showing will inevitably turn the heads of huge numbers of guys. But a shirtless male with a great bod just doesn't have the same effect on women. Some will be very interested; most won't. Also, the effect of purely physical bodily attributes on women becomes much less with age. With men, I think they never get tired of looking at the body of a babe. Never!

 

These are general observations, of course there is huge variation among individuals in groups.

[Mme. Chaucer]

A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself.

 

 

A woman can be attracted to any number of different qualities in a man, including all the stuff you listed, as well as his good looks. You also left out a lot of things that plenty of women over the centuries have found irresistible in men. It depends upon the woman.

Edited November 8, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[AD1980]

Women have different tastes in physical appearance. Athletic women tend to like athletic men. A female concert pianist is probably not going to go for the jock, she will go for a male musician or other artistically or intellectually inclined type, and his build won't matter so much. But his overall "look" may. But what defines that look can be very hard to say. Most women actually prefer men who are "fit" looking to men who are highly athletic looking when it comes to romantic/sexual partners. The cheerleader who goes with the football player does not disprove this.

 

In general my experience is that women are just not nearly as visually driven as men, and a lot of women have confirmed this for me, even ones who are highly sex driven.

 

I've noticed that a female walking down the street with a lot flesh showing will inevitably turn the heads of huge numbers of guys. But a shirtless male with a great bod just doesn't have the same effect on women. Some will be very interested; most won't. Also, the effect of purely physical bodily attributes on women becomes much less with age. With men, I think they never get tired of looking at the body of a babe. Never!

 

These are general observations, of course there is huge variation among individuals in groups.

 

If women had little interest in the male body movies like magic mike wouldnt be so popular and they wouldnt lust over so many celebrities like they do

[mysteryscape]

Female strip joints are probably 10 times or more as popular as male joints. And that movie was a success, but not a smash. How many movies have there been about female strippers? Too many to count.

 

Women may go for male celebrities, for sure, but that doesn't mean those celebrities have great bodies. Most of the biggest celebs don't. But it's a rare female celeb who doesn't.

 

Why do you think there's so much female moaning over the 'objectification' of women? Because it's an ineradicable male instinct!

[pteromom]

Women are attracted to status - Not true for me.

money - No, I have my own.

how much a man smiles and laughs - This is #1 for me!!!!

how many friends and resources a man has - No, doesn't matter to me.

how full a man's life is--how many "cool," "exciting" and prestigious things he is doing or connected to Yes, but not "cool". A person is more attractive if they are interesting and do interesting things, of course.

 

They are interested in how other people view him--how many people want to be around him, how other people interact with him and whether their interactions convey that he is special and amazing. - Not even a little bit; not even on my radar.

 

They want him to be extremely outgoing and aggressive, they want him to demonstrate his status over other people by dominating them in various non-violent ways. - Ummmm. No. I just want him to be authentic. I would be very put off by someone demonstrating his status over others.

 

A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. - HAHAHAHA. No.

 

She doesn't care who he actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself. - No. I care about who he actually is. His humor. His integrity. His values. His beliefs. His interests. How he spends his time. What good he does in the world.

[mysteryscape]

I've talked with women about whether they would REALLY sleep with Harrison

Ford, Redford, Newman, Clooney -- even when those guys were younger -- or even likely be really into them in person -- and they say no.

 

I've seen this in myself actually, encountered a few models and actresses in real life -- was so not interested or attracted -- beyond what I see every day in real life -- and sometimes much less.

[mysteryscape]

It would be nice to think that most women really do value the things you say you value! I have my doubts though, alas, at least about a huge fraction.

 

I did notice that you didn't really mention a guy's looks, let alone his body -- unless the things you mentioned are or come to be reflected in his looks, in your eyes -- in which case it only reinforces the point.

[Mme. Chaucer]

I think this is very close to the truth. And I also believe that many women even if they wanted to understand this…cant.

 

Really? You don't think that women are capable of understanding what we do or don't respond to in men?

 

Granted, some people lack self awareness and when we're very young, many of us (regardless of gender) can't really put our finger on what we like. But it's not particular to women.

 

I am saying that the way the brain works in most women, they will always look at statements such as this...and compare it to themselves. If they dont think it fits themselves....they will blanket the entire idea with a big NO. Just because it doesnt fit YOU...doesnt mean its not true for most women.

 

Don't you believe that an individual woman just might have a better insight into "women" in general than a man or men?

 

Anyway, if a tiny percentage of individual women agree with the OP and the vast majority of individual women disagree, I think that gives a reasonable control group for you to consider when you are thinking about what women like and don't like.

[PhillyDude]

It doesn't matter what women are attracted because at the end of the day it's about that "D*CK"

[MrCastle]

this is just pathetic lol..tons of women are sheep my god

 

 

LMFAO

[Pyro]

Women are not actually attracted to men. There is a vague idea of what a man is physically, and some are better than others aesthetically speaking, but the purely physical appearance of a man is almost inconsequential unless he is horribly ugly or outrageously attractive.

 

Women are attracted to status, money, how much a man smiles and laughs, how many friends and resources a man has, how full a man's life is--how many "cool," "exciting" and prestigious things he is doing or connected to.

 

They are interested in how other people view him--how many people want to be around him, how other people interact with him and whether their interactions convey that he is special and amazing. They want him to be extremely outgoing and aggressive, they want him to demonstrate his status over other people by dominating them in various non-violent ways.

 

A woman's attraction to a man is a function of her jealousy at the thought of another woman having that man. She doesn't care who he actually is or EXACTLY what he looks like physically, she only cares about the VALUE of the life he has constructed around himself.

 

Kind of hard for a woman to know all of that about a man after only dating him 2-3 times (maybe more) and during that time is when the connection/spark is made, so to simply answer your question: no.

[pteromom]

It would be nice to think that most women really do value the things you say you value! I have my doubts though, alas, at least about a huge fraction.

 

I did notice that you didn't really mention a guy's looks, let alone his body -- unless the things you mentioned are or come to be reflected in his looks, in your eyes -- in which case it only reinforces the point.

 

Well, looks ARE important, but not in the way you may think. While there are a small number of men who would be universally attractive, most men are attractive to someone. I've said it here before, but I have a friend who is crazy about big lips on a man. For her, that's the #1 thing, physical-wise. Doesn't matter if he's tall, short, fat, skinny... as long as he has sexy big lips.

 

For me, it's about eyes and smile. I can overlook a lot of "flaws" for a guy who has that twinkle in his eyes.

 

I don't notice much about a guy's body. I mean, if he's really muscular, or really fat, or really skinny, I may notice. But that's not the thing that is going to determine my attraction to him.

 

I actually agree with Pierre that what is attractive changes as a woman ages. In my 20s, I liked tall guys with long bangs who were the "shy bad boy" type. Now, I will go for a nice guy with integrity and a smile any day.