ItTakesSeconds Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 (edited) I just came to a realization today that makes me want to laugh, cry and scream: A few weeks ago, I sent a message to someone who I had not added as a friend. As they did not reply to me, I assumed they ignored it. In any case, I got a reply today from that person, in which they said, and I paraphrase, 'Sorry for the late reply, I didn't get your message as it was in a different inbox ('Other'), which doesn't notify me. I very rarely check it. It got lost within all the other messages I receive from fan pages and such.' Now this set off an explosion in me. This explains a lot! I completely forgot that Facebook does this! You're probably wondering why I am so surprised at this discovery. The reason I am is because quite a few months ago (I count around 8) my relationship came to an end. It concluded, like all LDR are often want to do, with the complete and total enforcement of the No Contact rule, which began with 'unfriending' each other from Facebook. Unfortunately, I started to miss her quite a bit a few weeks into NC, and decided to send her a series of messages on Facebook. Thankfully, this preoccupation of mine didn’t last. Anyway, she never replied to any of them, which is something that has always bothered me. Her coldness about it all, especially the abrupt nature of the break up, has never sat well with me. A part of me has always felt pain over the lack of closure I got from the demise of that relationship. And now I know why she never replied to my messages: she never got them! They are undoubtedly still in her 'Other' inbox. The reason I know this was when we were together, we both had access to each other's Facebook accounts, and she'd never check the secondary inbox. To think, she is still probably unaware of my attempts at contacting her. I hate Facebook. If only I had used the phone… Edited November 8, 2012 by ItTakesSeconds
QdB Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 By the way she broke up with you NC is still the best way to go buddy. If she do reply it's likely you wouldn't like what you hear
Author ItTakesSeconds Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 (edited) By the way she broke up with you NC is still the best way to go buddy. If she do reply it's likely you wouldn't like what you hear Yeah, I hear you. If it make any difference, I broke up with her. But still, either way, I doubt the reply would have changed anything. Still, I wish I had realized at the time that my messages weren't getting to her. Ah, well. Edited November 8, 2012 by ItTakesSeconds
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