Trisb4u Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 (edited) Hi i am after some advice please. My ex girlfriend of 6 and a half year broke up with me almost a month and a half ago. It is killing me inside. Her reasons for ending the relationship were because we never do anything together anymore and because we are not as intimate as we used to be. I never realised how much i was hurting her and she never sat me down and discussed it with me. She said to my friend who was with me at the time to take care of me because she still loves me. She said she didnt see a future with me anymore. Then two weeks later she was sleeping with another friend of mine and hers. Am i in the wrong did i treat her so bad. There is a lot more to the story if anyone ask. Edited November 8, 2012 by Trisb4u
blue_jay_bird Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 (edited) The pain is unbearable around this time. Just step out gracefully, rebuild your self. STAY NC. If she wants to talk say you need space. If she's completely ignoring you stay NC. .... Around the same thing happened to me. I wish they sat down and talked about it. But, they didn't and it won't be useful to talk. To them it's over. and that means. IT'S OVER. Your in denial now. And you have to accept. She is are gone. She is not not coming back. It's NOT your fault. It's her loss. Stay strong. I just read the title again......"my stupidness". WTF it's not your stupidness. It's her's SHE is being the idiot. She didn't talk to you about the problem's. SHE is immature. So immature she sleep's with a mutual friend. The blaming your self slowly goes away and so does the pain. I'm NC six months from a 7 year relationship. I't gets better. Edited November 8, 2012 by blue_jay_bird 1
Author Trisb4u Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 (edited) Thanks for your advice it's appreciated. I'd like to think one day she will contact me and I can have the satisfaction of telling her no. I made all the mistake you shouldn't do after a breakup but I was living in hope till I found out about her sleeping with a mutual friend. I send her a letter a week later then some flowers after that. Then I found out and hit the roof I said some horrible things to her which is so out a character for me I am never hurtful. I don't think she will ever contact me again which hurts but I just need to move on. I lost her and her two kids and our dog. What's hurts more is our mutual friend to be honest is not a nice guy he has no job sells weed and admitted hitting his ex. Made me feel like crap knowing she would choose someone like that over me. The only things she did say to me were sarcastic comments like bet your balls are massive because we hadn't had sex in a while but I never knew if she was joking. She always seemed to be in a grump with me for every little thing I did from washing my car at home to playing a little game on my phone while she watched the soaps Edited November 8, 2012 by Trisb4u
LostOne1 Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 That's just her saying rude stuff to you because you both are hurt and angry. My ex and I said lots of things we didn't mean. But at the end of the day each thing we say hurts. And honestly it hurt us both enough to destroy any chance of fixing our relationship. Which is why I've learned to always stay calm. Take some space and don't DO anything when a BU happens. BEcause the mind doesn't work properly and we do stupid things we don't mean, which can lead to further bad factors. So it's always best to not do anything.. and take some time aside. And worst comes to worst talk to someone about it before any actions are taken in any way.
flitzanu Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 nah, very doubtful there's anything you could have done to make her stay at that point. she just decided that she wanted to try new things, which unfortunately means you get left behind.
Author Trisb4u Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 Do you think one day she'll try and come back? Not that I want her
flitzanu Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Do you think one day she'll try and come back? Not that I want her we can't read her mind or predict the future, but probably not.
blue_jay_bird Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Do you think one day she'll try and come back? Not that I want her Do you want to find the path to insanity. Cause, keep asking your self this question.
Author Trisb4u Posted November 9, 2012 Author Posted November 9, 2012 Ey your probably right. Time for me to move on. Just a nice thought of having the satisfaction of tell her no.
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