Why would he still continue seeing me if he knew I did not want a relationship?

[Foxxy]

Why do guys continue to date and sleep with girls when they don't want a casual thing? Besides the obvious reasons.

 

This guy I was dating and sleeping with. I mentioned I did not want casual and he was pretty vague with his response. Also got a non answer like I will see where it goes. Still I shrug that off and accept that. I did not want to pressure him into anything too soon.

 

After about a month or so. Things did not seem to be progressing in any way, saw a couple of red flags. I mention to him if this is a friends with benefits thing. I do not want to be a part of it. He ends it.

 

It is still pretty confusing when I think back to that because I do not understand why he did not end it when I mentioned I did not want a casual relationship earlier on. Why would he keep dating and sleeping with me without any intention of a relationship knowing that?

 

Just glad I was more upfront with it a month or so later. No way was I going to let myself be strung along anymore. It only lasted two and a half months.

Edited November 8, 2012 by Foxxy

[Leigh 87]

They are lazy, and use the first girls that care willing to have sex with them, rather than waiting to just find a girl they are into (for a relationship) or a girl that they are not into but will be happy with just sex.

 

People with more class and dignity, who value treating others with respect, will either:

 

- if they need to get around, to be honest with girls about their intentions, and only go through with the sex if they are SURE the girl is totally fine with the casual thing; and they would STOP seeing ehr if she caught feelings and he didn't.

 

- guys with class and who have options would at least find casual flings with girls they respect and like as people; sadly, most men will just have casual sex with girls they do not even like as people; they seriously hook up with women they would not even be friends with!

 

I think it is disgusting how men regularly tell girls who they are not into that they will " see how things go" when it is clear the girl wants more, and the guy uses her folr sex, when a lot of the time the guy does not even like or respect the girl he sleeps with:sick::sick:

 

Real men should learn to wait for a casual hook up that they at last respect as people, or for a girl they are really into to come along.

[Leigh 87]

I Just started a new thread in honour of women like this poster.

 

Seriously. I would rather have a life without men, than settle for sex with men who did not even like me at ALL, and in fact, thought lowly of me and probably would not even consider me good enough to be friend with them.

 

Even average dudes should be able to get women who they are FRIENDS with to have FWB with them! You know, girls that they RESPECT as people.

 

They really HAVE to resort to women who they do not give a crap about?

 

no dignity or self respect I say. Sad.

 

is it THAT hard to find a women you think is really nice as a person? Someone you think is nice?

 

DO you have to have sex with women you think are worthless and not even worth being friend with?

[DC4]

I just can't believe men are as bad as this site would have me believe.

[sabre80]

The real question OP is why do women/men continue to sleep with guys/gals who make it obvious they do not want a relationship? Go find someone who wants the same things you do.