Goldenbrwn Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 I'm at a point where I feel really stuck when it comes to dating/relationships. The superficial aspects of love and women are really ruining it for me. I'm 29 just starting to make more money and advance my career and buis. I also work out a good bit and stay in above average shape. Lately I've been getting more attention from women but I do a lot of reading about and analyzing the nature of relationships and what women want. I understand now it is very very important for most women to feel like a man is successful or at least more successful than they are and money plays a big role in who is attractive and dateable. I keep trying to accept that fact but it really just kills it for me. Whenever I'm in a situation where I get a green light from a woman I start to think about that and feel like I dont want to get involved with them in that way. I feel like relationships and marriage are not a whole lot different than prostitution since the man has to pay a financial cost for both why not just sleep with a prostitutes who are more honest about it and generally have a lower overall price for a more physically attractive woman since there is no love without finance when it comes to regular women either.
kaylan Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Really depends on the girl OP. Ive seen women, even successful career women, date guys who were bums. For some women, if she feels strongly about you emotionally shes going to be with you. For other women they will care more about the financial aspect of things, especially if they have less means to take care of themselves.
Minka333 Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 You get what you pay for... Healthy relationship gives trust, love and security. Hookers gives you temporary pleasure..but in the end do you feel total satisfaction? Since you are starting to earn, better just save it and share it with someone who won't drain your money for nothing. There are women out there who are willing to work together for something meaningful and worthwhile.
boaaaar Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Since you are starting to earn, better just save it and share it with someone who won't drain your money for nothing.... = avoid marriage
todreaminblue Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 I'm at a point where I feel really stuck when it comes to dating/relationships. The superficial aspects of love and women are really ruining it for me. I'm 29 just starting to make more money and advance my career and buis. I also work out a good bit and stay in above average shape. Lately I've been getting more attention from women but I do a lot of reading about and analyzing the nature of relationships and what women want. I understand now it is very very important for most women to feel like a man is successful or at least more successful than they are and money plays a big role in who is attractive and dateable. I keep trying to accept that fact but it really just kills it for me. Whenever I'm in a situation where I get a green light from a woman I start to think about that and feel like I dont want to get involved with them in that way. I feel like relationships and marriage are not a whole lot different than prostitution since the man has to pay a financial cost for both why not just sleep with a prostitutes who are more honest about it and generally have a lower overall price for a more physically attractive woman since there is no love without finance when it comes to regular women either. I actually think it is more important for a man to be happy in a job than go for the job with more income.....I don't think women only care about their partners paycheck.I don't know what reading you have been into but it seems to have a very negative slant......see with prostitutes they give you sex but they dont cook your dinner or wash your socks....marriage is for richer or poorer try having sex with a prostitute when you are poorer wont happen.Not all women seek out a paycheck to marry some don't give a toss.Some women have supported them selves not everyone needs a man to support them ....more likely case scenario is women want to share their life with a man so they marry a man not the cash in his wallet.....deb
dasein Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 IMO you are overworrying about these things prematurely. Judge the individual interaction. Gold diggers usually give tons of clues. You are not obligated to be a human wallet, and many women out there don't want that anyway. Seek out women with careers who are dedicated to their career, and will share expenses, won't wake up one day and demand you revert to a traditional arrangement. it's definitely a topic for discussion, but not even an issue until you are into a relationship and considering marriage or LTR. Oh, and agree with another poster, don't get married or cohabitate for long periods, and you can avoid the "career woman today/mommy seeking human wallet tomorrow" bad surprise.
musemaj11 Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 See every woman like you see a car. The shiniest the car, the deeper you need to reach into your pocket. The keys are to keep increasing your buying power and avoid legally binding you permanently to the car so you can keep upgrading as your income grows.
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