lovebug1234 Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 (edited) went on a few dates with this guy that originally I was sexually attracted, we had sex and I thought it was okay but apparently he thought it was one of the most amazing experiences he ever had which was fine but now, every time we hang out he keeps wanting to have sex. problem is, because of his desperate neediness, I'm losing sexual interest in him. I see long term potential with him but his neediness is turning me off, for instance, we hung out the other night. it was pretty cool and it was sort of leading to sex then he keep rushing it like, oh let's go to the bedroom baby, lets go to the bedroom baby. I got so turned off. what do I do now??? he was literally asking me for sex again before he leaves for a trip next week but I don't want to have sex with him. BUT i am attracted to him. The way he asks for sex is just so F**KING pathetic, not a FWB situation but actually relationship possibility. Edited November 8, 2012 by lovebug1234
OompaLoompa Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 went on a few dates with this guy that originally I was sexually attracted, we had sex and I thought it was okay but apparently he thought it was one of the most amazing experiences he ever had which was fine but now, every time we hang out he keeps wanting to have sex. problem is, because of his desperate neediness, I'm losing sexual interest in him. I see long term potential with him but his neediness is turning me off, for instance, we hung out the other night. it was pretty cool and it was sort of leading to sex then he keep rushing it like, oh let's go to the bedroom baby, lets go to the bedroom baby. I got so turned off. what do I do now??? he was literally asking me for sex again before he leaves for a trip next week but I don't want to have sex with him. BUT i am attracted to him. The way he asks for sex is just so F**KING pathetic, not a FWB situation but actually relationship possibility. Have you talked to him openly about it? It might help to...
Goldenbrwn Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 So you want him to show less interest in you sexually because him wanting to have sex with you and trying to initiate it turns you off? Why is that a bad thing??
MrCastle Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 The first scientist study and interpret the female mind successfully will win a noble prize 2
OompaLoompa Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 The first scientist study and interpret the female mind successfully will win a noble prize as a woman, i kinda feel the same was as the OP.
Goldenbrwn Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 I'm seriously trying to understand this tho. So if he is interested in sex it is a turn off? So you both want the guy to be interested and not show it or just to have less interest in it?
OompaLoompa Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 I'm seriously trying to understand this tho. So if he is interested in sex it is a turn off? So you both want the guy to be interested and not show it or just to have less interest in it? lol i gather OP saying, show it but don't say it
Andy_K Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 This is why I won't date a girl unless, by the time we start sleeping together, she wants to rip my clothes off. Not just 'is attracted to me', but genuinely wants to jump me. Anything less just leads, sooner or later, to a myriad of excuses and reasons why she's not really in the mood this time or in general.
sweetkiwi Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 i would love if i guy i was into emotionally and sexually was into me the same way. I don't see a problem here. You should talk to him about it. He deserves to know how to navigate your emotions. 1
Author lovebug1234 Posted November 9, 2012 Author Posted November 9, 2012 For the men who don't understand, it's the difference between a man and a boy. A man has self control, a boy, doesn't.
Author lovebug1234 Posted November 9, 2012 Author Posted November 9, 2012 The first scientist study and interpret the female mind successfully will win a noble prize that was pretty funny i have to admit =P we are pretty complicated, even I don't always know why we are the way we are.
Author lovebug1234 Posted November 9, 2012 Author Posted November 9, 2012 This is why I won't date a girl unless, by the time we start sleeping together, she wants to rip my clothes off. Not just 'is attracted to me', but genuinely wants to jump me. Anything less just leads, sooner or later, to a myriad of excuses and reasons why she's not really in the mood this time or in general. Andy, I actually agree. I'm not sure if you're being sarcastic. But I've initiated sex several time because of this.
Author lovebug1234 Posted November 9, 2012 Author Posted November 9, 2012 I asked him a few times to slow down and I Just want to talk/get to know him better. Have you talked to him openly about it? It might help to...
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