Girls what would you do if some jerk spits in your face?

[Dfrioa]

I would say the best term to describe what I felt in that moment is froze. I was just stood there while he took off and left. I was only with my 3 female friends and they were shocked too.

 

He left too fast that I didn't even have time to react.

[Taramere]

Whip out my phone and take a picture of his face, then mine (with the spit on it). Then carefully scrape off the spittle into the small plastic bottle that I conveniently have in my handbag. Take down the names and contact details of any witnesses and then make my way home via a taxi...collecting a receipt from the taxi driver and also taking his contact details so that he can provide evidence of the distressed state I was in at the time.

 

When I get home, I'll carefully (with a magnifying glass if necessary) separate half of the spittle into a different bottle just in case my attacker knows somebody at the police station who might "lose" the crucial dna evidence. I will then offer to enter into a victim/offender mediation with him.

 

My suggestion for restorative justice will be that we return to the bar in which he spat on me. He will stand still holding a placard announcing "this is what happened when alcohol brought out my inner misogynist" while I carefully apply cosmetics to his face to make him resemble a woman. Then I'll stand aside ready to take a film for youtube as another drunk spits copious amounts of tobacco and Carlsberg Special Brew flavoured saliva in his face. Or alternatively he can accept three stern kneecap hits to his family "small diamante"...and I'll be more than happy to deliver them.

 

Next time, Dfrioa, be ready with your camera or your kneecap. Where there's alcohol, there's probably an increased readiness to go all aggressively Vengeful Men's Rights Activist on women...and as your case demonstrates, it can sometimes involve spittle.

Edited November 8, 2012 by Taramere

[Dfrioa]

if you know how to throw a punch, punch him in the throat, hard. If not, call the cops or security.

Come to think about it, I was a tomboy as a kid and used to practice throwing punches, kicks, etc. with an older male cousin and his two friends. Eventually I outgrew that stage as I was about to enter high school. Though it's been a long while since, I haven't forgotten it.

 

Yet, I didn't use what I was taught and stood there doing nothing. For that moment, it's like nothing processed within me and I didn't know what to do at that moment.

[veggirl]

But not the women, curious.

 

No, none of the women I know would get in a physical fight with a man. Curious? I don't think so. The women I know would probably scream at him / get the bouncer.

[Pompom]

I always go all out. I don't see why not. I am the innocent victim of a needless assault. I would never pick a fight, but I don't walk away either.

Throat, sternum, eyes.

I'm not a good kicker, so it's hard for me to harm the genitalia. Also when I kick, I tend to fall over backwards. However, weighing 105 kilograms on a tall frame, and having some muscle in addition to that fat, I can produce incredible momentum with a straight forward motion of the flat palm at chest and eye level. Once accidently almost knocked out my brother during training. He was out of service for a half hour. Punch to the sternum.

[Pompom]

cut off his balls and hand them to him.........

Rip his face off and show it to him while it's still screaming

[BetheButterfly]

Whip out my phone and take a picture of his face, then mine (with the spit on it). Then carefully scrape off the spittle into the small plastic bottle that I conveniently have in my handbag. Take down the names and contact details of any witnesses and then make my way home via a taxi...collecting a receipt from the taxi driver and also taking his contact details so that he can provide evidence of the distressed state I was in at the time.

 

When I get home, I'll carefully (with a magnifying glass if necessary) separate half of the spittle into a different bottle just in case my attacker knows somebody at the police station who might "lose" the crucial dna evidence. I will then offer to enter into a victim/offender mediation with him.

 

Wow Taramare!!! You rock!!! Do you have your own lab? You should!!!

 

My suggestion for restorative justice will be that we return to the bar in which he spat on me. He will stand still holding a placard announcing "this is what happened when alcohol brought out my inner misogynist" while I carefully apply cosmetics to his face to make him resemble a woman. Then I'll stand aside ready to take a film for youtube as another drunk spits copious amounts of tobacco and Carlsberg Special Brew flavoured saliva in his face. Or alternatively he can accept three stern kneecap hits to his family "small diamante"...and I'll be more than happy to deliver them.

Nahh I don't like that. What he needs is to go to "Why it's not good to be a drunk" class and "Why spitting on people is unacceptable behavior" class. He also needs to write a research paper with at least 15 references concerning the ill effects of alcoholism and rudeness, and prepare a letter of apology to read out loud at his work (if he works), where he spit at her, in front of his family at his house, and in front of video cameras for a news station to broadcast. Hopefully that'll teach him not to do that again, as well as motivate other men to not be rude drunkards!

 

... an increased readiness to go all aggressively Vengeful Men's Rights Activist on women...and as your case demonstrates, it can sometimes involve spittle.

Lol so magnificently stated!!!

[pcplod]

I won't give you a condescending sermon on the impoverishment of retaliation because one way or another, we have all been there at least once with a feverish imagination about the extreme retribution we would like to visit upon someone else in such circumstances. It is infuriating to think that these sorts are even allowed to walk the earth, stealing precious oxygen, with no consequences visited upon them for their outrageous behaviour.

 

However, you could have at least reacted in kind, an eye-for-an-eye or scratched his piggy little eyes out, but you didn't because that is simply not you. If you had, I would suggest that you would not have felt much justification and probably no satisfaction or pride because you would have had to then contend that you had voluntarily descended to those depths with him. And that would have continued to trouble you for some time.

 

Revenge is a form of self-defence and is a pretty natural reaction. The only way you can come to terms that you did not obtain it is to try to persuade yourself that even if you had seen it coming you still would not have done what you maybe imagined you would have liked to have done in retrospect.

 

It is not that you have taken the higher moral ground but rather that you have maintained your self-dignity and composure which is hopefully valuable to you. If there were witnesses judgement on him will have been made.

 

Learn from the experience, learn how to instinctively deflect hostility by avoiding direct confrontation. Learn how to rebuff drunken inadequate men who are so easily self-humiliated so that they have no other option but to slink off without making a dramatic gesture. It is a skill, amongst others, that will raise your self-esteem and respect amongst those who come to know you, including mature, confident and good-looking men who you won't be saying "No" to.

 

Believe in it, believe in yourself.