The nihilst chick Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 I hate him alot or at least think i do but i was in denial about him cheating. Like i was nine ten maybe eight and dad would take me to meet his girl "friends." He would tell me not to say anything about em to my stepmom or his ex wife but especialy my stepmom.....its hard to admit this u no.i just feel...heavy.my sisters would say ya he has other kids etc from other women and im like dad nooo.....and its like i knew but didnt wanna admit it. It wouldve been too much stress. Especially now with my stepmom nd him discussing divorce, he even introduced me to a woman who would move in with us after the divorce....told me not to tell....i have seen pics of a naked woman on his computer who looked like lot like the woman i met before......and my sisters said he blackmailed a woman sent pics to her job when she broke up with em soo... I dont know folks.i just started high school and all of this is haunting me with the divorce talk they have
Ninja'sHusband Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Oh man, that's a really rough situation. I don't know if I'm the best person to give advice since I haven't exactly been in your shoes...but I'll just say what I'm thinking right now. Right now I feel like you have the right to just let your Dad have it...I can't imagine anything worse than to be shamed by my daughter. Unfortunately in the end, you really have no control over this. At the same time you don't want to make life hard for yourself. Do you live with him all the time, or just some of the time? I'd say some time with a counselor would be good too. ANYONE in your shoes would need it; it's not a reflection on you at all. I have the feeling it might be hard to get your Dad to make it happen though. What about your mother? Also you sound old enough to know this, but I might as well say it: This is definitely not your fault in any way. It's a tragic thing but this really is all about your father's bad/selfish behavior. And another thought, might conflict a little with what I said earlier...(the part about letting him have it). Maybe after letting him know how you really feel, try to practice forgiveness and acceptance of a situation you cannot change. Try to focus on the positive things and love your Dad for all of his virtues. Hopefully that helps some, and hopefully someone with more similar experience chimes in 2
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