sweetjasmine Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Just for my satisfaction please tell me what happened when you wore a skirt during rush hour? Did you get a protip! I haven't had a stranger grope me - just garden variety stalking and verbal harassment. My friend had a man stick his hand up her skirt on the A train in NYC to cop a feel. They were packed in there like sardines. Hey, maybe he was trying to reach into his coat pocket and his hand slipped, right? You know what also happens all the time? Girls calling guys creeps. Happens all the time. So because girls call creeps "all the time," there is actually no such thing as a creepy guy or creepy behavior. Thanks, I'll keep that in mind.
threebyfate Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Yep, messed in the head, but they know they can get away with it. It's just like snatching someone's purse/wallet/camera right before the subway doors close and bolting out before anyone can catch you. They know they're probably not going to get caught, and even if the victim calls the cops, you're already long gone. What disturbs me most about the dismissiveness is how people internalize it. IME, women often feel guilty after the fact for having felt creeped out or threatened because, hey, nothing actually happened, did it? I felt that way after an incident at work (I was all alone in the building when it happened). My boss made me report it to the cops, and when I recounted what happened to them, I felt like an idiot for wasting their time, even though they took it seriously.You've expressed it clearly, the attitude that just because you weren't raped, all other sexual assaults are fine and as a woman, you should just accept your lot because this type of deviant male behaviour is "common". Sorry, not going to buy into the bull. It's sexual assault and not Sugarkane's fault. She was the victim in the true sense of the word. 1
Nightsky Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Y Sorry, not going to buy into the bull. It's sexual assault and not Sugarkane's fault. She was the victim in the true sense of the word. I consider her a survivor
sweetkiwi Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 wow. So you think he's being a weirdo and all you do is scoot over on the same seat??? I had to ride public transportation for a while and this happened to me all the time. You know what i did? Put my bitch-face on and told them to get the f away from me. Or i simply got up and went to the opposite side of the bus. Even at the bus stop i'd have guys pulling over in their car asking if i needed a ride. I ignored them as they obviously thought i was a prostitute and they drove away. Its not your fault that this guy did what he did. But you should take some self defense classes and not read nazi articles to keep potential sex offenders at bay. Its going to take a lot more than that.
AlexDP Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 This isn't funny. This is sick behaviour. I would have called the cops. Not kidding. I find it appalling that people are making fun of someone who was sexually assaulted on a train, as if this creepy freak was exhibiting normal behaviour. If the cops came over and you told them that a guy was rubbing his legs and that his arms touched your arms, the one in trouble would be you. Police don't take kindly to this sort of calls. There's plenty of work already, they don't need this silly stuff. 1
ascendotum Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Protip - don't wear a skirt on public transportation during rush hour. Why, deprive normal red blooded single guys from something attractive to look at on the journey into the rat race, or to have your fashion style be dictated by rare event random weirdos. Rush hour means lots of people....lots of people to also notice the weirdo acting up. Lots of people in ear shot, to hear you when you yell 'do you mind not feeling me up you creep'.
somedude81 Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Next time try making a title that's actually related to the thread topic. 1
serial muse Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Next time try making a title that's actually related to the thread topic. Yeah. It sounds like a really awful thing happened to you on the train, Sugarkane. But what the heck does that have to do with "why can't guys get their own gfs?"
threebyfate Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 If the cops came over and you told them that a guy was rubbing his legs and that his arms touched your arms, the one in trouble would be you. Police don't take kindly to this sort of calls. There's plenty of work already, they don't need this silly stuff.Reread what sugarkane wrote. The police within my resident jurisdiction would take this type of deviant behaviour seriously.
Nightsky Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Reread what sugarkane wrote. The police within my resident jurisdiction would take this type of deviant behaviour seriously. Must be a feminist jurisdiction? One time, get this I bumped into a woman while walking by mistake. Seriously I'm lucky I wasn't put in a cage and raped for that one.
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 My brother was drunk on a bus in a college town and apparently made out with a girl's hand without getting prior approval. Just went and did it. I guess she was ok with it since nothing happened. I think he's very lucky she didn't call the cops. But that doesn't mean my brother is a total creep. This guy though, sounds very strange...
threebyfate Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Must be a feminist jurisdiction? One time, get this I bumped into a woman while walking by mistake. Seriously I'm lucky I wasn't put in a cage and raped for that one.Come on Dust, you know better than this.
Nightsky Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Come on Dust, you know better than this. Please don't call me names, I wasn't trying to make this personal. 1
El Brujo Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Yes, but why can't guys get their own gf's? Because human cloning is neither that advanced yet, nor legal.
Nightsky Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Because human cloning is neither that advanced yet, nor legal. A clone gf would be nice to go with my clone wife and clone children and clone army.
FitChick Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Cops can't be bothered unless the guy becomes violent. They have more important things to deal with. You are a big girl. Get up and sit somewhere else if some guy bothers you. If he follows you, yell "I told you to stop following me! Leave me alone!" Then at least you will have some witnesses who might intervene and at least snap cell phone pictures. If you have to stand up on a crowded train, carry an umbrella that you can wedge between yourself and anybody else, poking them and keeping them from getting closer. Worked for me. Men who rub up against you are called frotteurs -- they generally dry hump you while standing.
Hawakai Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 (edited) I had this absolute weirdo on the train try to feel me up on the train and kept breathing heavy. I got off ASAP so I wouldn't be stalked by a creep. Yeah, so when the train is full and everyone is pushed hard into each other, does that mean that the men and the women who have their bodies pressed against mine(because there's no free space) are actually feeling me up, or is it only sexual harrassement when the woman is not particular keen on the poor fella who is forced to be near her? I think I'm going to call my local feminist representant and tell her that I feel violated and that I demand protection from the creeps that have to go to work everyday at 8 am and sadly don't have money to buy a car or to support one. By the way, 2 days ago I was hit hard by the flu and my vision was rather blurry. After the end of the class I got up to pick up my thick winter coat and as I was putting it on I didn't notice the good-looking german girl who was right next to me; my arm heavly touched her natural double D chest as I was putting the coat on... And guess what? She didn't move away, she didn't scream in horror and she didn't press charges over something that was made without intention, and without malice. Heck, maybe I should sue the girl who cooked my lunch because she touched my hand when she gave me my plate and smiled to me - yeah, she wasn't good-looking. Who is going to protect me from this creep? Edited November 10, 2012 by Hawakai
Taramere Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 And guess what? She didn't move away, she didn't scream in horror and she didn't press charges over something that was made without intention, and without malice. Heck, maybe I should sue the girl who cooked my lunch because she touched my hand when she gave me my plate and smiled to me - yeah, she wasn't good-looking. Who is going to protect me from this creep? I think everybody who's had to travel on crowded trains understands that physical contact is inevitable. The problem is with people who use that "inevitability of physical contact" situation as an excuse to have a bit of a grope. I sense the big dick pendulum swinging its way in favour of creepy train users. Backed up by the Men's Rights Activists, they're planning an onslaught of frottage on female train users and trying to shame women out of complaining by using these indignant but hollow "accidentally brushed against...by Christ, can't a man even breathe without being accused of sexually harassed...if I were a better looking man they wouldn't complain..." outbursts. Enough's enough. It's time to whack the pendulum back in the opposite direction with some force....otherwise we'll all be having to contend with Egyptian style Eve Teasing from these "can't a man accidentally hold a strange woman on the train like a bowling bowl, without the feminists over-reacting?" twat-fiddlers.
scratch Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 It's time to whack the pendulum back in the opposite direction with some force....otherwise we'll all be having to contend with Egyptian style Eve Teasing from these "can't a man accidentally hold a strange woman on the train like a bowling bowl, without the feminists over-reacting?" twat-fiddlers. Interesting that you would use the term "twat fiddlers" as a derogatory slight. When you're holding a woman like a bowling ball, isn't that the object of the exercise? Okay, half the object of the exercise.
Taramere Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Interesting that you would use the term "twat fiddlers" as a derogatory slight. When you're holding a woman like a bowling ball, isn't that the object of the exercise? I didn't mean to be derogatory towards men who fiddle with strange women on the train, using the "I was just practising my bowling technique....I've a match later tonight" excuse. My apologies to all.
AlexDP Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Reread what sugarkane wrote. The police within my resident jurisdiction would take this type of deviant behaviour seriously. Fine. Try calling the cops if something like that happens to you. I know someone is going to get a fine and it won't be the guy.
scratch Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 Fine. Try calling the cops if something like that happens to you. I know someone is going to get a fine and it won't be the guy. Exactly, dude. There bitches are out of control. Can you imagine having to live in a world where a strange woman could get you in trouble every time you rubbed your erection against her in public? Truly, there would be no point in living. 3
dasein Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 I think the main question here is "will there be a second date?" 1
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