hutch Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 So I'm new to the forum and just looking for advice. My situation is a tough one. My girl and I have been together for a little over six years. We have a two year old daughter together and her 10 year old son lives with us. Two weeks ago she broke up with me saying she loved me but wasn't in love with me. She is unable to move out right now for financial reasons and wants everything to be as normal as possible for the kids and then after the first of the year we will tell the kids and she will find a place to live. I have to have contact with her but I try to limit my contact but I'm not very good at it. My question is how can I gain control of this situation and make her think about her choice? I have done some soul searching and know what I did wrong in the relationship and am making peace with that. I have to stop being her crutch. How do I tell her I need space and we can be nice in front of the kids but no more casual talk or sharing how our days went or asking each other what wrong or where I'm going or who I'm talking to? I know this situation is a tough one since we live together but I'm trying to win er back before she moves out. Any thoughts suggestions or advice? Its greatly appreciated. Thanks G
UpChuck Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 I don't have any kids or whatnot, but if she is looking to just stay with you in your residence for financial reasons; then scurry away once she can find herself a better life.. I'd tell her to get out immediately regardless of her situation. If she is going to leave you in the dust why should you let her structure herself to leave you behind once she can? That is financially draining & selfish of her to do, you are supporting a leech IMO. You're still being a crutch subcontiously as she sees in her eyes that no matter what she does to you.. you'll still be there. Thats my opinion though.
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